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GET OUT!!!

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And another two for you: red flags.


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Two more words: alien nooky

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Oh, now I caught up!!!!

RUN, FOREST, RUN!!!

She's all-in on the second date?!Jealous and clingy? Oh noooooo.

No one knows better than me how I wish I could get the stars to align with the good traits in a person. But there are some things we cannot look past....

This would be one of them.

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Wow. I hear stories like this from guys all the time. I cant believe there are so many women out there like that!

I agree with everyone else. Ignore the looks and bow out early.


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This would have had me running for the hills - in fact it has multiple times in years past. I would have passed on the sleep over - and again I have in years past when getting these vibes. I don't want to scare you here, but you better be prepared, she could stalk you when you cut it off. She could get real crazy and stalk you. Again, it's not my goal to try to scare you but be ready for this. Just everything about this chick is not right. You have to ask yourself WHY. Why is she doing all the things she's already doing? She barely knows you and she's jealous? Staying over on the first date? Now a weekend hookup or ONS is one thing - but they generally don't go down like this. The best thing you may have done was to NOT have intercourse with her. If she will jump you this fast, how many others has she done this with and what has she collected along the way?

Bad vibes, man, just bad vibes - and that's coming through just over the Internet 1,000 miles away. Something tells me you're going to have more stories for us as the rest of this unfolds.


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Originally Posted By: DonH
I would have passed on the sleep over...


Wait, wait, wait...she may be crazy, but pass on the 'tang? What guy does that? What guy can do that? It's not possible.

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I have to go with what everyone else said....run! Don't walk, don't dawdle, and for the love of all things bright and beautiful, don't lollygag. It frightens me the crazies that are out there, but this one seems to not only be waving big red flags, but seems to be draped in them too.


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Inch gently backwards, and lower yourself slowly below the horizon. Very slowly and in the least dramatic way possible.

If you're lucky, she'll also be dallying with someone else (or have someone else lined up) and be distracted by that.


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Originally Posted By: doodler
Wait, wait, wait...she may be crazy, but pass on the 'tang? What guy does that? What guy can do that? It's not possible.


I'm sure this is going to come as a shock to many of you, but I'm just not a typical guy. I've passed on more than I've taken, I would guess. Now, of course this was prior to getting married when I had a lot more to pass on. Not sure if I'd always be able to keep the same high standards now but I've always been a quality over quantity guy. On the plus side, I've never had to regret a bad choice - well okay rarely had to anyhow. I've never had someone bitching and complaining to everyone about what a player I am and how I used her. Never been stalked. I do regret passing on a few but in general I'm good with my decisions - even though many of my guy friends think I'm crazy. I just have standards, even for a hook up, and I just can't seem to lower them. My big head always seems to stay in charge. On the plus side, instead of guys giving me crap about "You slept with that?" if anything I get "How in the heII did you sleep with her"??????


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