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Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: TBSakaJ9] #2769417
11/28/17 05:45 AM
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JoeJoe, you continue to kick @ss!

I think you're on a great path. Just remember not to skip the hard part of working on both your issues. Hopefully MC will help you accomplish that.

Keep it up, man!


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.
Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: TBSakaJ9] #2769450
11/28/17 07:00 AM
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Thanks for your update.

I'm really happy you're doing so well!


M:23 T:26
Me:53, Wife: 60
S:18
D:16
filed 7/16
W moved out 4/28/17
Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: Jim1234] #2769471
11/28/17 08:57 AM
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Great post and insight JJ! Congrats on the tremendous progress! Don't wait too long on reestablishing sex, too many recons get stuck in a sexless state because both sides are afraid of opening up that much and getting rejected. Fortune favors the bold.

Also I'll play Cadet for a moment- time for a new thread grin


Me: 59 w/ S17, D23, D26
Current R: 4 years
Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56
Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: AnotherStander] #2769514
11/29/17 01:15 AM
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joejoe;

great sitch; congrats on all your progress and your journey and I mean that!

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I don't know how, but I never got angry or resentful with my W (I know how, through GODS grace), but I did get fed up. In my heart I also know the night when I gave her two choices, (either she could leave and do what she want with OM or stay and stop what she was doing) and I meant it and she could see it in my eyes and face, it had some impact, I don't know how much but it did. I didn't stop her, I didn't beg her to stop talking to him, I didn't plead, I just wanted her gone. I might fine out later on if it had impact from her and if I do, I will def come back and post it here.


This was from a post a couple pages back; and I was trying to go back and re-read when you were going through this. Do you remember what thread or page you talked about this process? The process of basically tell your WW its me or him?


M:30 W:28
T:9 MR:2.5
NoKids
Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
Move back in: 1/17
BD: 8/15
She moved out: 9/1
Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: chris19] #2769522
11/29/17 02:19 AM
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Chris,

Here is the part of my thread you were asking for.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2763769&page=2

AS,

So after you gave me advice about having sex with my W. I went home and bust in the door and told her it was time. I told her give me that good stuff. I looked her in her eyes and told her daddy is home.

Then I ripped off her clothes. JK

Nah, we did have sex yesterday. I kissed and massage her all over and we went to place of passion we have been in years. She still was looking over her shoulders for the boys. So next time I want to be in a place with no interruptions around.


M:37 W:37
T:11 M:10
S17, S13, S10, S4
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Re: Lost on how to save my marriage! 4 [Re: joejoe1] #2769527
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Originally Posted By: joejoe1
Nah, we did have sex yesterday. I kissed and massage her all over and we went to place of passion we have been in years. She still was looking over her shoulders for the boys. So next time I want to be in a place with no interruptions around.


Seriously? Y'all ML? That's awesome!

Last edited by Cadet; 11/29/17 04:05 AM. Reason: Start a new thread message

Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.
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