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Leap of faith #2723600
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I would like to wish every single one of you a Happy New Year and may this New Year bring you inner peace, self love, courage and laughters.We are the only captain of our ship.

Leap of faith is for me to take that jump in the unknown. I have noticed that holding on is only hurting me. I thought I'd die (literally) 21 months ago but i'm still alive. Hurt yes but i'm still breathing. My life hasn't turned out how I expected it, although looking back now I have done and achieved things I'd never have thought I was able to do.

What the future holds, I don't know as I'm only on a journey to rediscover me.

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Happy New Year to you too.

I like the title of your new thread and that's what we should be doing...taking a leap of faith. We won't know what the world has in store for us if we don't take that leap of faith.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Hey Rouky,

Happy New Year to you and here's to peace and love! I know that the person you will rediscover is an amazing and beautiful one. One that is strong, resourceful, inspirational and many other lovely attributes. 2017 will be an amazing year for you as it will for me with our new found circumstance of only having to please ourselves and take care of our children.

God Bless you, Mark


M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
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Nice message. Best wishes for the new year.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together
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Happy New Year, Rouky! Wishing you all the best this year! Be so so proud of yourself and how far you've come. With each obstacle you get stronger and stronger. You really can do anything. Take that giant leap.... We're rooting for you!!!


Me- 30's H- 40's
T-10 M-5
I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15
D filed by H: September 16
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Happy new year rouky!


I still have yet to catch up. But I know from our history on newcomers, you deserve much peace and happiness for the upcoming year.

Hugs

J.


M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer
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Well what an interesting reading I had. I read again the lighthouse story, and I have realised that I need to be the lighthouse for myself not H. This is a new perspective that I'm willing to follow and to see where it will lead me.

H is making me laugh with his temperature checking (if I can call them like that). Got a phone call on Christmas Eve which I found hilarious because he knew how important this day was for me and my family. I guess it was his way to remind me that he still exists! Then just when I was about to go out on NYE, I got another text about something I asked him regarding our children 2 days earlier which didn't even required a reply. I was also pleasantly surprised when he had the kids ringing me on NY day as I wasn't expecting it. Now he is supposed to pick up things for the kids but hasn't made any arrangements for it (normally the old Rouky would have dropped those things to his place, but not this time), so I had to text him late in the afternoon that they would be ready for collection from my front door. Might be harsh but seeing him physically would send me straight back down the pity hole, and it is something that I don't want to feel again.

For 2017 I don't wish health, money or happiness for myself but spiritual growth because I know that when I am where I'm supposed to be health, money and happiness will be already there or will follow suit.

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I love your comment about spiritual growth smile

And just wanted to tell you how much I relate to your battle against negativity.


M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer
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2017 will be so much better, I just know it.
So nice to hear from Shotgun! (If you see this, do know that there are lots of us out here thinking of you and wishing you well, Shotgun.)
Take care, all.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
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Happy New Year!

I fight negativity the most for one week every month! Lol, those hormones send me over the edge in negative thoughts.
You are doing a WONDERFUL job taking your life and happiness into your own hands. I'm so happy that you went out & had a good NEw Years Eve. .


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction



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