I remember Jack’s appearance on the boards. He arrived around the end of January 2006—and Bworl, he was always Jack_Three_Beans. There are some people that make an impression as someone who already knows where they are going and what to say. Jack was a board leader from almost the first moment. Even when his words may not have seemed so different than others, there was still some unknown quality of leadership and perhaps a charisma. I felt it right away from him and I also always had a sense his marriage would make it. We did not interact a lot because I think neither of us really needed the other, but I followed his posts and respected him. There have only been a handful of people that have that immediate quality that lets me know this person is going to lead this place—maybe it’s something about people with the name Jeff. My posts tend toward the long…to the point of going over post limits even— and formal, whereas Jack could bring across his point with a witty one-liner. I’ve never figured out how to do that. To me one of the funniest was when someone asked if anyone had noticed if female MLCers showed an increase in masturbation. Jack’s response: 10 Foot Pole. I think he followed that post with something more, but I almost fell off my chair from laughing at his simple response that succinctly stated how we were all probably feeling.
He approached Standing with dignity, grace, humour and acceptance. I think he knew that his marriage would make it—we both hated odds and said we would be the exception—because we weren’t going to let those odds affect our morale.
To Jeff’s family, my condolences. Please know that your son, father, husband… was a wonderful and great man of convictions. He helped many people through betrayal and lead them to look at themselves and become great.
I have been away for awhile. I came here today thinking of Jack/Jeff for some reason. I was thinking about Life being Plan B.
He was my DB Bootcamp mentor. He gave me advice and pushed me hard to go deeper. He gave me light in my darkest days when my H was pushing hard for the D. I still remember and use his words and advice today .
I never knew him IRL, however I imagined him to be larger than life, someone you WANT to know and be around.
His time with me on this board was essential in the continuing development of the person I am today, and I am still not done. His generosity, patience and time was key to where my family is now. And as usual, he was right. Piecing is even harder. I remember him saying that and it keeps me going.
To Jeff's family, my sincere condolences to a man that touched and help save a woman, and eventually a family, half way across the world. May he rest in peace.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home