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Was not much. Just some headphones.
Wow a guitar, thats not just a normal gift, did you mention to him anything about that would have influenced that gift?
You need to get stuck into it and become really good at it show him you can do it and impress his socks off, go for it girl!


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Well its been 8 months now since she walked out.
Not much has changed. My GAL efforts have helped me tremendously I think this has had an impact on her, it's bloody hard work trying to figure out what the right thing to do is and it all takes a long time to accomplish, thats the hard part, you put in all this effort and there is no guarentee it will come to anything!
What experiances have others had in this time frame?


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Well christmas and new years has come and gone. WW turned up at christmas get together at D23's house, i just spoke to her if she spoke to me kept it to a minimum and short responces. She got me a gift i got her nothing just lime she got me nothing the year before. She took photo's of me with our grand daughter witch i thought was odd, i almost asked her not too.
I don't know where she was on new years.
I am at the point where i am not too worried about her much.
I think im ready to move on.
D25 is not talking to her, she said to her she spends more time with OM's family and is not happy about it.
These WW realy do change don't they!


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No mate, you are not ready to move on, not by a long shot. You are hurting and hurting badly and you would do just about anything to make the hurt go away.

The hurt will go away, but it will take time. You really need to focus on yourself and do something just for yourself. What are you doing for fun? Do you go shooting rabbits? Do you surf?

Stay strong buddy...

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Yeah.
I go to a trivia night at the club every wed night, most fridays i go out to a pub band and do a bit of dancing with female and male friends, i go to the gym almost every day, sunday morning i take out my old 56 vw beetle for breakfast and coffee, I cycle my vintage racing bike with some buddy's, and I am rebuilding my hot rod pick up truck.
So my life is pretty full at this time, I am really quite enjoying it!

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I've been looking through the MLC threads this morning, looking for inspiration and guidance. I found this little gem, and I'm going around sharing it with everyone I think it may be helpful to. Sometimes everything just gets to be too much, and I forget where I'm supposed to be focusing. It really helped me redefine where I want to go, and how I'm going to get there. I hope it helps you a bit, too.

Originally Posted By: ericmsant2


Consider the DB basic principals....

1) Healthy boundaries.
2) Better communication
3) GAL
4) "act as if"
5) Change how you look at things
6) Keep a positive outlook
7) Personal growth
8) Learning more about you so that you can be all that you can be.
9) Learning to avoid "cheese less tunnels"
10) Love and respect

These principals can be used in all facets of ones life. When used properly....they truly can change you from the INSIDE OUT.


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Thanks Ancaire
It's very difficult, you suffer and suffer and they seem to be having a wonderful time. I think she is in the anger stage at this time. I am getting my life back and moving on, not really sure what's going on in her head, I thought taking pictures of me with Penny (GD) at Xmas was a bit strange, I have noticed her attitude toward me has changed, she is not so sure of herself around me now.
Its been 8 months since she walked out, not sure what happens at this stage?


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No way to tell...just keep your focus on you for now - it's really all you can do.

Trust the process...it really does work. smile


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Thanks Ancaire
I'm really trying, I just miss having a girl to do things with. going to the movies and seeing couples is very difficult. 8 months without female closeness is the pits for me.

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