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Happy Birthday AU Bob

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Thanks


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AuBob - I know that feeling - my H just wants to do everything as normal. Plus his new extra adventures in OWs land. And everyone is just suppose to be OK with it. Well I'm not!!!!! So Im taking kids to an all inclusive resort on a beach far far far south of here


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Yes I struggle with the be friends bit, how can you be a friend with some one who rejected you?


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What are other peoples thoughts on this. Should you try to be friends or not?


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Hell no. It would only signal to her that you are ok with it... What next? When she has OM problems, you are going to comfort her?

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I got this from my H as well. The 'we'll be friends' thing.

Erm, no thanks.


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Hi. I can only copy and paste advice from Sotto to me. It helped me when I felt like giving up and being BFF.

I certainly don't think being her friend is the way to go if you hope to reconcile. If you think about it - you become her 'friend' again in the hope of reconciling. She is then able to think - Oh Scrant is okay with what's happening here- we're all okay with this. I get to spend time with OM, and my family. My R with S is even better than it was before. Hey, this is better for everyone actually. I made a good move - It all enables and supports your W's poor decisions.
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Scrant, so wanted to like that reply :o)


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Yes. It's all a bit confusing. I seem to be accepting that she is not here anymore and am going out and having a good time again. To tell the trueth i am starting to understand im free and can do what I want! I spose thats what she has been feeling?


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