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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2666492
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Hi,

Can we edit our own posts or do we use the notify button to have an edit made. Like for spelling errors or incorrect words due to spelling errors.


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It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: SH_] #2668981
04/15/16 06:20 AM
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Originally Posted By: SadHub
Hi,

Can we edit our own posts or do we use the notify button to have an edit made. Like for spelling errors or incorrect words due to spelling errors.

I missed this question.

My best suggestion is to use the PREVIEW POST button before you post.

The edit button does not work and tbh I have no idea why.
It has been brought up to the ADMIN and I really did not get an answer - so sorry about that.
You can use the NOTIFY button one time per post but it does create a lot of work for me so please consider that before pushing it.

Hope that helps.


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2668989
04/15/16 06:46 AM
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ISSUE - I am new to the forum and I am on moderation.
How do I get off?

Or

I was put back on moderation for not following the board Rules.
Now What?

The Board Administrator makes the final decision on all posters for whether they are on moderation or not.
AKA - Virginia.

As a new poster we would like to see evidence that you are following the rules and who you are.
That you are Posting DB type advice, within the board rules.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=boardrules&v=1

My suggestion is to start a Personal thread and POST about yourself.
This gives other posters some background on who you are and what your story is.
It also helps to give complete transparency about yourself.
That you are not a sock puppet with multiple user names
Also posters are able to post to you and ask you questions if needed.
After this is demonstrated I normally recommend to the administrator that you be taken off of moderation.
Normally on weekends, holidays and night(EST.) very little goes on about these issues.
If you have done all these things and are still on moderation, I suggest you contact the Administrator about your case.


I hope that helps.


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2684030
06/07/16 11:24 PM
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For informational purposes only.

Right now the NOTIFY option on the forum does not work.
This is also affecting those on Moderation.

We are working on trying to FIX this problem.

Sorry for any inconvenience this may cause.

I would suggest posting here if you need to reach me and I can delete your post.

I will post here when it is working again.


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2685500
06/14/16 05:35 AM
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Re-posting here again just to let everyone know I am back from a long weekend away.
Next weekend will be the same thing too.
Notify are still not working so it makes it a lot harder for me to approve posts for newbies or ask for their removal from moderation as the administrator is also not
getting my messages except for e-mails.
From a computer a lot of this stuff is easy however from my phone..... OH MY!

So bear with us and use DB101 - PATIENCE!


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2706202
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I have a collection of qoutes from posters on other sites. These I find precise and often brilliant. I stress these posters do not work for the other boards and the material is not copyrighted. One example is by a woman who married a BS that I refer to "why improve yourself". It address an individuals issues must be addressed either if the marriage ends or not. She wrote how impressed she was about how he owned his issues. Because he owed his issues she wrote "I reaped the benefits". Nice validation for the BS, eh?

So my question is can I use them on this board without a link to the site or mentioning the site in my posts? Is there a way I could email you a few examples? The other qoute is by a former "player" from his point of view, that married women with children, 5 plus years married where easy prey. A real eye opener for many.

Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Jersey1] #2713906
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Jersey1,

I don't think that there will be a problem in sharing quotes from other sites, just as long as you don't identify the sites names, the link to the sites or the names of the posters. Keep it clean of identifiers and you should be good to go.

Edit - I agree - Cadet


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: job] #2726389
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Originally Posted By: job
they do come along a couple of times a year and clean up the main frame, which means older threads do get deleted from the main frame.


What's the best way to look for the oldest post? I'd like to see where they are in the purging process.

I thought I some posts from circa 1995-1996. If that's correct, they hold on to at least 20 years' worth of posts?


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: ForGump] #2726396
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Originally Posted By: ForGump
Originally Posted By: job
they do come along a couple of times a year and clean up the main frame, which means older threads do get deleted from the main frame.


What's the best way to look for the oldest post? I'd like to see where they are in the purging process.

I thought I some posts from circa 1995-1996. If that's correct, they hold on to at least 20 years' worth of posts?
Purging is through 2006/2007 I believe.

Any older posts are ones that the admins deemed they wanted to keep on the forums.

Like the ones posted by the owner MWD.


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Re: Board Policies and General Info for Newcomers [Re: Cadet] #2726413
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Thanks.

You said they purge about twice a year. About how much do they purge each time?

Wondering when the next purge year is....


Edit:
They purge every few years.
No idea when the next one will happen.

Cadet

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Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
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