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Re: T0324 continued part 2 [Re: 25yearsmlc] #2526358
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Thanks Maybell.

I did not have a good experience with the DB cosch


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Quote:
You both need to stop, please.


You're right. I apologize to you.


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No need to apologize, thank you though

What is my next course of action? I imagine he will sleep on the couch and end up leaving in s few days to a friends house


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you're mindreading.


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Well he's alesady on the couch now and telling his mom he's done. If he's repeating history like we are thus far. That is the next step


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Re: T0324 continued part 2 [Re: T384] #2526369
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Originally Posted By: T0324
Thanks Maybell.

I did not have a good experience with the DB cosch



Yikes, that's a first, but it's also a huge bummer. Seriously huge.

Of course I'm very curious to know how or what happened (!!) but I'll let you shed light on that when you are comfortable doing so. (it would be valuable feedback for the coaches and others as well. Really, I mean that).

FYI, the coach I had was mainly Vernetta, a true Godsend. (Weirdly perfect for me, if you KWIM). I would take notes and she'd give me "Gems" of wisdom that I just cannot repay.

I also Had Laurie and or Jody (I think?) a few times. She was also good but didn't know my whole situation as well so not quite the same. (But better than 90% of mc's).

Vernetta gave me insights that just resonated perfectly and yes, I'm a believer in divine intervention. So at times like that, it was clear that someone was looking out for me.

Looking back, clearly I bonded with Vernetta in a deep way. Also I have heard Chuck is very good. IF you bought a package then ask around about others -so you can try someone else, and not lose the money!!

And hang in there. Nothing need be done or decided tonight. Can you give yourself an internal timeline, so that you know that, eventually, limbo will have ended?

Also gives you that inner awareness that indeed, you do control some things, like how long you'll do X and Y, and that's empowering.

We are all rooting for you.
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Re: T0324 continued part 2 [Re: T384] #2526370
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I'm not against talking (arguing) tonight if you want my honest opinion.
So what if you argue? Michelle says in DR that in healthy relationship people need to air their grievances... Might do you good to let the air out and him too...

I know if it was me, I would confront it head on and not let it fester. That's just me and the way I tick... I know I would just say I am going to confront this now....


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Deep down inside I know nothing good will come of talking to him tonight

He expects me to talk. That's me. He expects me to flip out and cry. He won't get that satisfaction tonight. Well not that he knows of.

Now tomorrow I'm not sure.


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"*If* he's repeating history" ...

Maybe he is. Maybe he isn't.

If he goes to work at OW's dad's tomorrow, let's talk. You will have little - if any - time to do anything between now and then anyway. NOTHING you say will stop him if he's determined to do it.

Do I need to repeat that? NOTHING you say will stop him if he's determined to do it.

In fact, if you say anything right now, you're essentially DRIVING him there.

He's a big boy, T0. He KNOWS what your non-negotiables are because you've told him. Repeating them only weakens them. Let it go.

If he goes tomorrow? Let's talk again. (And we can talk in the meantime, too.) But don't dare breathe a word to him in the meantime. Do not weaken your stance.


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OK. Sounds good.
You have a good head on your shoulders and I know it is practically impossible to not go over everything in your head time after time after time...


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