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Wet #2508620 11/19/14 04:55 AM
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Originally Posted By: Maybell
Hebrews 12:1-2
Therefore let us also, seeing we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising its shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.


Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3
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Originally Posted By: Maybell
Hebrews 12:1-2
Therefore let us also, seeing we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising its shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

The lesson in my church this morning was on this passage. The speaker reminded everyone that God is sovereign and that what Christ suffered was far greater than what any of us is going through.

My prayer for my wife is that she would be relieved from the chains of sin tonight. That she would think about who Christ is and what he did to free us from sin. No matter how great our sin, there is freedom and we have help in dealing with the pain and consequences of sin in our lives.

God, please soften W's heart to your discipline and mercy. Begin the process of drawing her towards you and to obedience. Please be merciful on my W. Her sin is no different than mine or anyone else's. Use our sitch to bring others to a full and complete knowledge of you and your will. Use us to further the gospel, I know our M is on display to many friends and family members. Please use this as an image of your great sacrifice, love, and mercy for all of humanity to our lost friends and family. Lift the fog brought on by the sin of the affair; restore my W's mind and soul.

God, please give me enough wisdom to get through this week. You are sovereign and in faith, I trust that you are actively working on my W, working to restore our M, and are working in the hearts of many others who are watching our sitch closely.

Please make your presence known in the lives of all the LBS on this forum this week. YOU hate divorce. We are your workers eager to act out your commands in obedience to your will. Don't leave us hopeless, but show us how you are working so we might persevere.


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Me: 28 W: 25
Married: 4 yrs Together: 7 yrs
Dday: 9/14 (W ends affair & comes home)
S: 12/14 (W restarted affair 1/15; moved near OM 2/15)
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UpperCu #2515053 12/08/14 01:54 PM
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Great prayer, UC!


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
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D final 5/15...
wmwb123 #2518975 12/20/14 03:47 AM
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I pray that the holidays will have a profound impact on wayward spouses and cause them to desire to be home with their real families.


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
wmwb123 #2519175 12/20/14 09:05 PM
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Thank you all so much for starting and keeping this thread. I don't know how I missed it until today.

The past couple of months I have been talking with my pastor about how to pray for my sitch. You all have asked and answered so many of the questions I have been asking!

I look forward to keeping up with this thread.


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
wmwb123 #2519197 12/20/14 10:39 PM
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One question for everyone here: I have been having trouble reconciling praying for my marriage and "dropping the rope". How do you all pray for your WASs and Ms while pursuing healthy detachment?


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
okjpc #2519205 12/20/14 11:16 PM
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Hi okjpc, there are two lines of thought on how we should pray for our WAS. Take a look at the Starsky prayer (on page 1 of this thread), which is a great prayer for those who are able to keep thinking about their spouses, and what may be going on in their lives.

The second line of thought is the 'Nitty prayer' (on the second page of this thread), which turns the spouse over to God, and to bless them. For me, the Nitty Prayer works better as I am also working on healthy detachment. Check them out and let us know what you think.


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace
Wet #2520083 12/23/14 08:30 PM
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Thanks, Wet. I won't post much about my struggle for detachment on this thread, but it is a challenge for me. I hope people keep sharing their thoughts on prayer here.


Me: 39 W: 46
D: 7.5 S: 5
SD: 16 SS: 12
T: 2 (06/2012)
M: 2 (12/2012)
Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014
okjpc #2523228 01/04/15 04:24 PM
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Have hope! One of the Christian internet papers posted this list of 10 Bible verses on hope. I hope it is a blessing to you:


1. Hope provides you joy in any situation.
"Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer" (Romans 12:12 NIV 2011).

2. Hope generates faith and love.
"We have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and of the love you have for all God's people – the faith and love that spring from the hope stored up for you in heaven and about which you have already heard in the true message of the gospel" (Colossians 1:4–5 NIV).

3. Hope causes you to live like Jesus.
"All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure" (1 John 3:3 NIV).

4. Hope inspires you to persevere and endure through difficulty.
"We remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ" (1 Thessalonians 1:3 NIV).

5. Hope uplifts your depressed soul.
"Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God" (Psalm 43:5 NIV).

6. Hope prompts you to praise God
"As for me, I will always have hope; I will praise you more and more" (Psalm 71:14 NIV).

7. Hope anchors your soul during the storms of life.
"We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain" (Hebrews 6:19 NIV).

8. Hope moves you to take action with great boldness.
"Since we have such a hope, we are very bold" (2 Corinthians 3:12 NIV).

9. Hope develops your patience.
"If we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently" (Romans 8:25 NIV).

10. Hope establishes your sense of security and safety.
"You will be secure, because there is hope; you will look about you and take your rest in safety" (Job 11:18 NIV).


Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace
Wet #2532637 01/30/15 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted By: Wet
How about using the famous verse in Jeremiah 29:11 to apply to our marriages? It could read like this -

God, I thank You that Your Word says You know the plans You have for our marriage and our family, plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us a hope and a future.

A day brightener for everyone still in the battle.


If you read this, then you will understand my screen name: JER2911 :-)


Me 48, Her 50
(Same-Sex Couple)
3 Children
Together: 9.5 years before BD
BD: Week of 10/27/14
ExW started EA w OW 9/2014
ExW married OW 12/2015
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