Congrats! Very happy for the two of you and the three of you :-)
--- Pay attention to this:
"Gabe came over, sat down on the couch next to me and said, "What would you think of us getting remarried? ... He said he loves me more now than ever and he wants us to be fully committed. Miracle."
Contrast it with this:
"Gabe came over, sat down on the couch next to me and said, "What would you think of us getting remarried? ... He said he needs to know I love him and he wants me to fully commit to him. Seriously?"
The first is what he said to you -- it was about him and his feelings for you.
Notice how different it feels *and is* from the second message...
He reported about himself and invited you into a deeper relationship.
Reporting about oneself is easier and harder than making demands on others. It's also the most important key to developing greater intimacy.
I think I must be a bit autistic because there is much greater humility and empathy in my words than is apparent in any first draft I write. Not having time to edit, I trust you to see the love and hope I'm sending you.
Thanks OT! It has been an amazing few weeks. It's like a tension between us that we didn't realize was there has been lifted with one simple act. No, it wasn't really simple, but you get my drift. One question, one expression of feeling can change everything. In our case it opened up the doors that had been held tightly shut for so long between us out of fear.
We haven't set a date yet but we aren't in any big hurry. Just having the commitment to each other is enough for right now.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks for the update Mish! Glad you and Gabe are doing well. Hopefully Marc gets his "mojo" back soon. Have you given him any deadlines to find a job, etc. That might help do the trick to get him back out there in the game of life.