It's a pretty weak reason, but he didn't disclose it and we didn't think it was relevant anymore. He outgrew it and hadn't been on meds for such a long time that he just didn't think of it.
I'm trying to convince him to file an appeal for a medical waiver and NOT come home right now. Stay there and fight it out. If he comes home and tries to fight from here the odds are even worse.
I talked to him this afternoon for a few minutes and he is a total wreck.
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I agree with your strategy Mish. He has a much better chance fighting this while there than if he leaves. It really [censored] that they are holding something against him that is no longer an issue. Anyway you can get his family doctor to certify that he is no longer afflicted with ADHD?
Probably but he hasn't seen him in over 2 years. He was his pediatrician and when we stopped the meds, he never went back because he never had any problems.
I'm starting to blame myself for all of this. I just didn't realize he should have said something to the recruiter about it since it wasn't an issue any longer and it had been so long since he had the meds. All was normal....or so we thought. Apparently, that's not acceptable to the US government.
Lesson is, if any of you have kids that want to serve their country, they better not have ever had any medical issue or it will likely disqualify them. Only the perfect need apply.
Sorry, I'm getting really angry and upset now.
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Fight back. Letters and calls to Senators and/or your Congressman/woman work wonders when dealing with the Military. Just a thought. You have a young man who is willing to serve his country, has successfully completed basic training and is now being held back by a medical diagnosis that is no longer valid. Seems to me like you have a pretty good case.
The trip was amazing and exhausting all at once. Great experience all in all.
Marc is coming home tomorrow. Because it was diagnosed outside of the Navy he has to come home and fight from here. I have zero clue when or how he is coming home. He hasn't contacted either of us so we don't know when to pick him up, where to pick him up. Flying home? Bus? NO CLUE! This is making me crazy!
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Marc got home last night. He is doing ok. Anxious to try to get back in to the navy. I'm not very hopeful since less that 1% of those that are separated every get back in but I won't share that statistic with him.
I'm so tired of being stressed out all the time. I'm exhausted!
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All the best with it, Mish. It's so disappointing and stressful for the whole family. It's one thing to be rejected before you get into the Navy but to go through the whole training process, graduate and then be told you're out...wow! Thinking of you.
Sorry, Mish. I imagine that it's super difficult to be turned away, after putting in so much effort. Just remind yourself, that it may be for the best. Like they say, "Things happen for a reason". Maybe this is his new door opening to an awesome future.....Lots and lots of opportunity in this world. The Navy is only one of them.
You know, life just stinks most of the time! I'm so sick of it all! Grrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I won't expound on it because I know you all are sick of my whining. I'm sick of it too! I just needed to vent that out there for a second. This happy face is cracking around it's edges and I'm afraid someone is going to see the misery underneath. Can't let that happen! Life is hard enough without people knowing how much pain you are in so they can pile on.
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I just needed to vent that out there for a second. This happy face is cracking around it's edges and I'm afraid someone is going to see the misery underneath. Can't let that happen! Life is hard enough without people knowing how much pain you are in so they can pile on.