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Am I on the right track? (2) #2489386
09/17/14 12:57 PM
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I'm starting a new thread since mine's reached 10 pages. Nothing new to report.

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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: wmwb123] #2489420
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I haven't initiated contact in two months. We haven't communicated at all in more than a month. Is this really the best strategy? I've been told that maintaining this NC shows my wife I am strong. Since we don't have children, there's nothing really to communicate about except for our fur ball. Do I just keep this up (detaching and working on me)?


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: wmwb123] #2489427
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Yes.


M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: Starsky309] #2489445
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That's what I thought. smile


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A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: wmwb123] #2489547
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"I just know that she's not going to even consider coming back to me unless and until she ends her affair. "

Not necessarily.


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: MrBond] #2489958
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I have to file my response this week. frown
I'm just going to ask my lawyer to do what's in my best interests. That's what I'm paying her for, right?


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: wmwb123] #2491040
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If any are the praying type, please pray that I will have wisdom today as I file my response. I dread this.


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: wmwb123] #2491047
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I'm praying for you...that God grants you the wisdom you seek and need to get through this.

It is a horribly dreadful process. Listen to the good folks here and continue to pray about it. When we are weak, He is strong.


JFred
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: JFred] #2491093
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Praying for you, nmwb123! God guide you. He will hold you up.

Re-read Theoden's post! Print it out and hang it up on your bathroom wall.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2469020#Post2469020

My walls are covered with posts like these. They help me a lot. And what Starsky said here:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2469020#Post2469020

...has been VERY helpful for my mindset.


M:54, H:55
T:33, M:27
12/13 BD: EA
01/14 BD: PA, H leaves
03/14 H & OW break up
05/14 H says he will file for D
08/14 H initiates D
09/14 H wants to R
12/14 Still bungling our way through R
Re: Am I on the right track? (2) [Re: Nitty] #2491096
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Thanks, JFred and Nitty. Yes, God will hold me up. I will make it through this. I just have such a burden for my wife. I am concerned for her, and I pray for her day and night. I realize that I contributed to the breakdown of our marriage, but she is responsible for her actions, and they are not pleasing to God. I pray that God will punish me and spare her.


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
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