I am reading a great book, actually listening to a great book. In this book one of the things it discusses defining what we want. One of the things may be a million dollars (what ever your poison is lol), however the author ask us to go a little deeper. Why do we want a million dollars? The answer is financial security. And why do we want that? The answer may be peace... (I hope I explained it well). Try to get to the root desire that we have and not what society tells us we want.
So... I've thought about that a bit and I want a life filled with joy, peace and purpose. Now I want to check my thoughts and make sure they line up with what I want in my lie. If those thoughts do not help me obtain joy, peace and purpose then I can thank my brain for the thoughts and then discard them. For some reason this book puts it in a way that I understand.
Anyway onward with my new journey and now to define how I want to move towards joy, peace and purpose...
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Now that I know what I want and it is not necessarily money or things but what I thought those things would bring me, (which is peace, joy and purpose) it is much easier to focus on the things that bring that about. Kinda lets me breath a little easier...
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I'm trying bug, I never really understood when people would say this is not a linear process. I kinda get it now, I have good weeks/days and not so good weeks/days where I think I actually loose a little bit of hard fought ground. I am realizing that even through the rough patches I am coming out a little bit ahead each time. So not linear or with a deadline of x date to feel better, yep chucking them out the window...
It's the subguy show staring me, because wherever I go there I am, so might as well start loving myself because I am always there lol.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
So, so true. When you get it, it makes so much sense.
H told me a few days ago that one of the changes he's noticed is in the past I was always on the go, or needed to be going somewhere, doing something. Now I seem to be settled, happy, OK.
I acknowledged that this was true, I always felt there was something "out there" that was going to make me happy, still my anxiety.
I didn't know I already had it within me, just had to unearth it.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I am really enjoying this book, I am connecting with the author. i am sure I heard this in other arena's however I am getting it now. Maybe I'm just ready now and she happens to be the right author at the right time.
The latest thing is about perception, studies have been done about it and how we each perceive the same thing. Google gorilla on a basketball court and perception, and check it out for yourself.
Anyway so perception is all about what a person sees and interprets this does not necessarily have anything to do with me. With this in mind I find myself being able to detach emotionally from situations easier (I am not Vulcan of course) and try to look at a situation from their perspective.
I'v heard this a million times but I just had a full on aaahaah moment, yes the light finally flipped on.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Well slap me silly, I thought I wrote the name of the book earlier.
Managing Thought by Mary Lore. She gave a seminar at my CEO/Key man group meeting a few weeks ago, I like what she was saying so I bought her audio book. Maybe I get it because I got to see and talk to her.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
