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I am in a R. We spend most of the time together. But I like a day or two just for me. It's weird. When I feel overwhelmed by her, her D and life I take off. I go home and chill. Like tonight. Couldn't do this when M. I really like it. Used to feel lonely but I don't anymore. Hope I'm not becoming a caveman.


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I am enjoying my alone time so much I'm not sure I need a relationship......

And I think it is good you see the value in your alone time. Maybe that is something you grew into.


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Hi, Rick! Turtlegirl here- first night here but have been around DBing for quite a while.

Interesting that you say you are in need of your alone time. I just want to bandwagon on what gabby said...that every healthy R needs to have a balance of time together and time apart.

YOu can't be everything to each other...you need other R's with other people- friends/family... and you need to continue your own interests and hobbies too. So, don't feel guilty--I think you are perfectly validated in wanting alone time!

If you start to prefer alone time (in general) to time spent with your R partner/GF, then I would start to question this a bit!

I am also a person who likes to spend A LOT of time with my partner, but I realize in the new R I am in that it is SO important to maintain that balance.


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If it is, I'm Nutz... I come back here every once in a great while and your the only name I recognize. Probably because I can relate on some levels. Anyway, I was starting to think i was weird/odd for that same reason as well... Who's to say...?


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tjb54, I enjoy my time alone, a lot. And no we are not weirdos because of it. But I also like spending time with others.


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Hi Rick, just attaching to your thread as we've talked a lot on FB smile I think you need some alone time to ease yourself into a new R. After being alone for a while now and doing your own thing, I presume, you will need to get used to having company again in your home smile We get into a comfortable routine on our own or with our family and if that routine gets disrupted for a few days we start to get stressed. Well I know I do anyway, lol.


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Man what I wouldn't give for some alone time! I think I have had maybe three full nights alone since the divorce. The boys are almost always here with their friends or girlfriends. Alone time almost doesn't exist except for an hour here or there.

Enjoy! kat


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Rick, no matter what anyone else says, you're weird.

But then so am I. wink


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TT180 we haven't talked on FB. Think you got the wrong Rick. If its the one I'm thinking of he is a weirdo. lol

Bugsy I like being weird


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Me too!

And thanks for starting my day off with a laugh!
No translation needed. laugh laugh laugh


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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