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labug #2410215 12/03/13 12:48 AM
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I'm a pretty introverted person but this piecing area is quiet, even for me...but then look at my post numbers. Will she ever shut up???

Bugsy I think people in piecing are busy doing the thingy......... You know BACHATA. Lol


M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden





Rick1963 #2410243 12/03/13 02:09 AM
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Ohhhhhh, thanks mi amigo.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2410435 12/03/13 05:56 PM
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Working together like that gave us lots of time to talk about all kinds of things, changes I'd made in the garage and house and why, things he would like to do differently, what we missed most while apart. Things are progressing.


^^^ love this. Talking and re-dreaming new possibilites together. wink

I hope you have a great weekend! Sounds like it will be fun... and without Wi-Fi! lol! We'll all have to wait for the snow to melt for you to catch a signal and fill us in.

I think Piecing is way too quiet too! As soon as I'm more secure in my possible reconciliation process and if we progress as a marriage far enough...

"I, RT, do solemnly swear that when I am Piecing I will write, blog, vent, laugh, and share my Piecing journey in the Piecing forum for all others to continue to help guide me, for newbies to draw hope from on tough days and for my Piecing peers to learn from. So help me Bug." wink


Me(F):40 WAW:44
T:13yrs M:9yrs
BD:2/12 (I saw a text)
ILYBINILWY: 5/12
PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11)
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I join in with the promise that when my relationship is reconciled or I find love in a different form, I will share. I will share all and I promise to be happy and positive.

Fingers crossed this isn't a million miles away for me!


M32 H37
DD1 6 DD2 5
M6 T10
EA 31.08.13
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Thanks! All best wishes to you both.


Me 57/H 58
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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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"I, RT, do solemnly swear that when I am Piecing I will write, blog, vent, laugh, and share my Piecing journey in the Piecing forum for all others to continue to help guide me, for newbies to draw hope from on tough days and for my Piecing peers to learn from. So help me Bug." wink


I LOVE this! Oh for it to be so. I too shall take the vow. From what I read here, this can be a very challenging process. All the activity, support, sharing, and venting is so appreciated.

I try and come here for pma...God knows we need it on the rollercoaster of insanity.


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H :55
M :over 29 yrs.
Together : 33
D : college
D : adult
BD and left : May 2013
Separated
Experimenting/Replay

Jan 2014...Let go of rope!


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((((((((((((((((((((bug))))))))))))))))))))

you are such an inspiration.. so much growth and wisdom. i am so so happy that you are in such a good place as a person and how that is impacting your R. smile

ps. so glad to hear that things seem to be moving forward in a good way for you too RT. smile


Me(f): 51 W: 41
DP:8 M:3 T:10
"W not happy" 7/11
D final: 8/13
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Thanks, grace. How are you?

I hope what I've learned can be helpful to others in some small way. It's taken so many little lessons with the input of many people for me to get to where I am.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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Hey Bug, the dating sounds fun and you both seem to be coming at it from such a good place. Hope your weekend trip is fun & exciting.

I get the safe thing. If your H is anything like me, its not that adventure isn't fun but that whole "failing" thing if things go wrong and you can't fix it. That can be tough on guys. But looks like you offered up a good solution to help him get past that. Very cool.

(oh, and very bummed about the Ohio State, Michigan State game. My SIL went to MSU and is extremely obnoxious about it.)

Hope you get to do the color run. Those look fun!


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S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
ces67 #2412524 12/09/13 02:50 PM
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ces, thanks for the visit! The OSU game was sad but Michigan State won it, no doubt. Maybe we need a new defensive coordinator.

We had a great getaway. No snow, cold and rain the first day but that just made it more fun to cozy up. We even talked about buying property in that little town, but then, I want to buy property everywhere. smile This got us talking about our past real estate adventures and I learned something I needed to know. WE bought a place that was foundation and 4 exterior log walls. He finished it, which took him away from home (he took older son with him) but that was H's job for the months it took to complete.

Our plan was to use it as vacation rental but it didn't work out, so we sold it.

That was probably 10 years ago and all this time, I've thought that he resented that project and me for getting us into it. His feelings were the exact opposite. He liked working on it and being in that location. He enjoyed the time with S and he was sad when we sold it. He also reminded me that we came out way on top in the deal.

So again, mindreading does us no good. I beat myself up about that for a long time.

And ces, thanks for this insight:
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I get the safe thing. If your H is anything like me, its not that adventure isn't fun but that whole "failing" thing if things go wrong and you can't fix it. That can be tough on guys.
He has said something very similar to that about failing. It's been a bit of a theme throughout this process. I think we need to talk more about that maybe.

Or how could I best validate his feelings around that?

Thanks, buddy!


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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