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Sorry, Rick, that must be so difficult. ((( )))


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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Sorry (((((((((((((((Rick))))))))))))))


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With her goes my two doggies and D.

DB101 – change how you look at things.

Your D may not see you every day and trust me I know that pain and I know it well. That said, look at is in a different light. When you do see her….the time you have will be QUALITY time. Most children prefer QUALITY over QUANTITY. Be the best dad you can be and leave the rest to God. Know that although right now it appears that you will only have her X days/times, that could change.

As for the dogs…I feel ya man. Luckly I have 50% custody of my dog.

BTW, our mutual friend Mach can tell you how to reach me.

Peace,
Eric


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hey rick,
Havent talked in a while, I have joined you in the club, divorce was legal on 9-26. Pretty sad, but life must go on. Seems like you are doing pretty good, keep hanging in there buddy,
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Hey Gunny so sorry my brother. Yes haven't heard from you in a while. Tells us how you are doing.

Exw has stopped packing. She has until end of October to move out. It is making me really nuts. I think I'm in a rush for her to leave so I can see what being alone feels like. Is that crazy? It's like this band aid is being pulled ever so slowly. Part of it is my personality. I like to get things over with and move on to the next thing. Working on it. Patience is needed here right?


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Rick

The desire to want her to leave and have this finally behind you is totally normal dude. YOu have been in the house together for a while and emotionally I am sure you need a break for it.

Keep doing what you need to do for you bud.

Oh as for her cooking for you...I would not say a word to her. I simply would not eat it. She'll get the hint.

Chin up dude....it does get better man!

Eric


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hi Rick...thinking about you and hope you are doing better today ((((( ))))


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Sorry about the D.
What Gabbysmom said, you don't have to make excuses about your dinner choices.


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So I have completely stop eating her dinners and been cooking my own. Including shopping. It feels ok. She has till November 1st to move otherwise I have to go to court to have it enforced. Hate to do it but will. Need to move forward. Sounds cruel? Maybe but it is about my D and my well being.


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Together 26 yrs
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D final 8/28/12

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I'm sure I'm not the only one who's relieved to hear that you're not eating her food right now. Hang in there!


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