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Smitty,
I am really sorry about your situation. I have had similar situations - where you think you have been working through past mistakes and it bottoms out. I'm glad you have been reading the books. Try to stay focused on the moment - especially now at the beginning.
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Thanks all for your support. Doing the best to take care of self. Working out myself seems to help and this weekend I am seeking out the local Scuba shops to get back into Diving again. Also, over the Easter Weekend the kids and I are Camping for 3 days and The following weekend off daughter/Son-in-law and I are off to watch nascar race and spend the weekend with Family Friends

Tad, I was interested in your comment...My wife has been doing the hormine stuff for a year...will be curious to know more about the changes you noticed


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Another question

She has not told her Family yet and only our closest friends know. In some ways I think it is good she hasnt spread the word...on the other hand she is not getting any pressure from her family to really consider what she is doing. Should I suggest she tell them or leave it alone?


Thank you again
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Tad

This is interesting that your W was doing the same stuff. It has always felt like it was not quite what it should be and that there should be more close monitoring of the treatment and results.

Sorry you are in the same woodchipper....I will keep posting and hope for the best for you.

Smitty


Me: 53
W: 50
Married:30 years
Bomb Dropped: 3/8/2011 Wants D, ILYBINILWY
S21, D25 both out of home
Now seperated
Nothing filed yet
I made mistake 16 yrs ago
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Cadet,

Began reading some of the links and fully intend to plow thru more this weekend when I have time. I will report back with questions but really appreciate the links as just beginning to read them is eye opening. Thank you...more to come


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W: 50
Married:30 years
Bomb Dropped: 3/8/2011 Wants D, ILYBINILWY
S21, D25 both out of home
Now seperated
Nothing filed yet
I made mistake 16 yrs ago
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Hey Smitty.

She would just put a glob on her arm or wrist and rub it in every night before she went to bed. I too thought that it would be more closely monitored because you can't get a measured dose or the exact does squeezing it out of a tube.

She started it in June and hasn't been back to the doctor to get her levels checked since.

Bascially what I noticed was that she became more irritated, she started lying, she seemed distant......although it could be the hormones, it could be just MLC.

My boys said that it seemed like she became a different person.

She started it in June and by October, she said she wanted to leave.

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It sounds like they are (or were) probably using a progesterone cream (available without a prescription). I don't know if that has any more to do with it than memopause itself. It can be a really tough time for some women (perhaps all of us and I'm just in denial wink ).

Just to offer you a different POV, as men age they are said to become more distinguished. As women age, we get old. I can see where, if you believe this, it definatley wouldn't help ones attitude if they were to go into MLC.

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Yes, Grace. It was progesterone and as far as I know she is still using it. She got it at a "health" store.

I just commented because I thought it was odd that my W and Smitty's W are both on it. I swear there was a difference in her once she started using it. Of course, when I mentioned it to her, she went nuts and told me that I didn't know what I was talking about....


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I know there have been reported side effects to progesterone.

I know the mood swings that can happen with menopause.

Then there is the insanity of MLC.

The combo is not something I would want.

The comment that you didn't know what you were talking about, sounds like someone who's afraid. I could just be projecting though.

I'm not saying there wasn't a difference after she started using the cream. Just saying there are lots of variables.

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I agree Grace. It could be any number of things. Her hormones ARE out of whack otherwise the doctor would have never suggested the cream. It may not be the cream, but that is when I noticed the difference in her personality.


Currently:
M 55 XW 56
Sons 36,32,30,27

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13
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