Seems like a lot of people are asking about Retrouvaille today. You can read through this thread, and then post any questions. There are several people on this website who have been to Retrouvaille weekends all over the US and in Canada.
In my case my H entered the weekend unwilling (he claimed unable) to let go of his preconceived notions and unwilling to forgive/accept...
That being said I think for a large number of couples Retro is the ideal tool/experience for helping them give new life and new breath to their marriage relationship/commitment. I found the program itself to be absolutely fabulous...
Thanks, BobbiJo. Glad you came back to visit. i know you are being pursued by many men these days! I'm sure you will put those tools to good use with your next serious relationship. A lot of couples could benefit from the Retrouvaille training before marriage, rather than waiting for a crisis.
Strange night. I walked into the bedroom while my H was watching a movie called "Short Time" about a cop who thinks he has a deadly disease and wants to get killed in the line of duty, so he is doing all kinds of heroic things. Just as I walked in he was telling his estranged wife how much she meant to him. I sat down on the bed and watched with my H. He reached out and started touching me. It's funny how hearing someone else say loving words made him feel loving. He's not a very expressive person, and he never says "I love you", but seeing him react to that movie told me that he loves me without him saying anything.
Just a note for those of you who ma remember "BeautyMe".
I spoke to her quote a bit (we live in the same area). She attended Retro with a great deal of fear, and not a lot of hope.
It went very well all things considered. I understand she and her H both realise they have a ton of work to do but the miracle is that they both see it that way and have committed to working through it together. Really happy for her!
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
Thanks, both of you! I guess I should have checked my thread on my birthday! I do remember BeautyMe; I believe she was Japanese. I am happy that Retrouvaille helped her. I wish more people would try it. It is depressing to see so many go the route of divorce.
Goodness, I'm lucky I found my thread, it's 6 months since I last posted here. This thread contains a lot of information on the Retrouvaille program, and who knows what else! I have the thread in Piecing, but Retrouvaille is a turning point. It is the time and place where you stop tearing your marriage apart and start putting it back together. It comes before Piecing. So don't be afraid to think about going to Retrouvaille if you are not piecing yet. Perhaps I put the thread in the wrong place. I can say for sure that when we went to Retrouvaille, we were not piecing. We were lost and didn't know which way to turn. Retrouvaille was the life preserver floating on the ocean that pulled us in to shore.
