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40,

Right before my D was final, I had a little fling. Mostly because I needed to feel some sort of intimacy...something I hadnt felt for a long time. I regret not waiting until after the the D, but it was the beginning of me feeling strong again. I learned that I deserved to be treated well. Dont feel be about having these feelings...they are normal It is my advice to wait until after the D though. At least you know you did the right thing and you will have at least given yourself enough time.


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I know that my marriage is over, I have oppotunities to act single and I dont do it. I just want to get this crap over with and get on with the rest of my life.


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Bad luck today, the STBEX blocked a girl I work with on her facebook, lost my main avenue for dirt on the stbex. :-(


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Same thing happen with me at one point.

Yeah, it's probably for the best anyway. Facebook is evil. It can be an avenue with which someone can reconnect and start a EA or even PA. It will also drive you nuts by obcessing. It's better to just stay off of it and move on.


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I agree facebook is evil, but I was happy to copy all the dirt on her that I could. I have other friends who are friends with her, just this girl at work gave me a free pass with her facebook, she would logon to her account with my laptop and give my computer back to me she offerd to give me her password but I declined because I would have become obsessed with it I know me. Oh well I have hundreds of screen shots, with her talking about drinking, parting, and even sex, I have pics she posted with 4 of her 7 OM. Oh well how much time would my lawyer have to present all the evedence anyway. On a small plus side om7 changed his profile picture to a couples pic with my STBEX. Use the info god provides.


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I agree facebook is evil,


So you are blaming a communication method for your spouse's actions?

So there were fewer affairs before cell phones, and fewer before telephones in general.

There were fewer before women entered the workplace.

There were fewer before the Post Office.

So... if we take women out of the workforce, eliminate all two-way communication technology including postal services, there will be fewer affairs.

Sounds like Utopia, eh?

Or... we could stop blaming the increased opportunity to have an affair for people actually having them.

It's not Facebook's fault your wife had poor personal boundaries or decided to have an affair.


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Stay away from FB, 40. It does you no good and will only make you feel worse from finding out info about your stbx.

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I blame VH-1 and MTV for the degradation of society...oh and Washington D.C.!!!

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So you are blaming a communication method for your spouse's actions?

nope I put the blame on the stbex. A cheater will find ways to cheat, facebook just makes it easy. I have had a facebook account for 2 years and have never used it to hook up.


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M 11 1/2 y
T 13 y
D filed 5-18-10
S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10
Counter sued for d 6-16-10
OM2 discovered 8-10-10
OM3, OM4
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D date 10-14-10
http://tiny.cc/mxzct
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Stay away from FB, 40. It does you no good and will only make you feel worse from finding out info about your stbx.


My lawyer thinks the facebook info is relevant to my case. At one point and time I had a friend snoop for me and print off what he though was relevant. The problem is I know my stbex better than anyone so I have dug up much more than my friend did this is my life and I am trying to get my kids into a better sich. So as long as she continues to post things about her wild life I will snoop.


M40, W 37
M 11 1/2 y
T 13 y
D filed 5-18-10
S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10
Counter sued for d 6-16-10
OM2 discovered 8-10-10
OM3, OM4
4 kids 10, 7, & 3
D date 10-14-10
http://tiny.cc/mxzct
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