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Hon, just remember your kids know that you are being the stable one for them. If even your ex puts together an album is that a bad thing? Keep the focus on you and the kids and you can get through anything! Glad you are going to make a Dr appointment.

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I guess it was the weekend for it.

X just called and asked to talk to me. He got engaged over the weekend.

He had told the kids on Friday.

Explains some of the mood that I got from my son when he got back from his retreat.

I said that it wasn't really fair to them to saddle the kids with this info before telling me - he said he wouldn't have done it any other way, that it doesn't have anything to do with me.

I just said OK to the news.

What else is there to say?

He said it won't happen for a few years, at least, because of insurance. whatever....



My SIL's father-in-law died over the weekend from complications from a fall. MIL and FIL will be going to the funeral soon (think Monday?).
I wonder if he told his parents.
I am going to stay out of that.



I just thought of something......I never changed my last name, keeping my married name (since it is the same as my kids, I have had it longer than my maiden name, etc.). Not sure how I feel about having the same last name as......
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Oh Donna....so sorry. frown Gag to the news. frown

Honestly, I don't blame him for not telling you before the kids. Like he said, it doesn't have anything to do with you.

Hope you are doing ok.

Don't worry about the name issue, lots of people have the same last name, just think of it as more branches on the tree.


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hugs Donna...


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Donna, you responded well to him. Just keep on moving on...

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((( Donna )))
Understand about the name ( did change mine back but my son was an adult) dosnt matter , its just a name really, your still wonderful Donna


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I kept my name but I also already use my maiden name no hyphen. I had been this "name" for 19 years and I didn't and still don't feel a need to change it. Perhaps this is because I used both last names already.

One thing that bothers me though, I have a couple of friends that just assume that I dropped his last name. That bothers me. They should just ask. Also still bothers me if someone doesn't use both last names. Aww, I am just venting now. Do what feels right to you. Neither choice is wrong.

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