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Thanks gals,

What's another week in the grand sceme of things?

W asked if she could keep the kids Saturday, which I usually have them. I said OK b/c I had them for an extra day over the holiday.

Just being fair.

Sunday, weather permitting, it's the annual Polish Festival!
Kids love the rides and food.......me too. haha.


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Where's that at, Gr8? I didn't even here about it.

All I ever hear about are the Italian ones; then again, I'm in the thick of that neighborhood.


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Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10

still m'd, unsure how to procede

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Vulc,
I live outside the city, bucksco.

It's in doylestown at our lady of czestochowa.

I have been going there for 5 years now.


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Received three emails from W today.

1. Communicating the "plan" about keeping the the kids until Sunday

2. Told me about the Home and School meeting in two weeks.
Nice of her, I knew that already though. That's what being a good dad does.

3. Gave me detailed information about D5 bus schedule.

I reply back:

Thank you for the information.
Have a great day
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Communication isn't rocket science.


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Communication from W much better this past weekend. She gave me updates about the kids and D5 schooling, even texted me last night stating teachers may go on strike.
I just replied: Thanks for the info, I'll watch the news.

An hour later she texts me: I am friends with the principal at the high school and he said teachers need to give 48 hours notice before striking.

The my neighbor texts me saying his W went to see my W Saturday night.
I told him I already knew this b/c D5 told me earlier that day.

He says his W didn't go into it but he'll let me know.

I say: know what?

He said: If anything was discussed

I said: It doesn't matter anymore, I don't want to know.

He and I went out the same night and his W was didn't want to tell him she was seeing my W.

I don't know what the big deal is, they did things when W lived at home. His W knows I have had a OW in my life. Not sure if she would say anything, but at this point I'm not concerned.

Mediation Saturday to move one step closer to D.


BTW the Polish festival was awesome.


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So, tomorrow is the big day we meet to discuss moving forward with D. We will draw a contract and W will file as soon as everything is agreed upon.

I'm honestly not too concerned. I know I will be just fine no matter what happens. I'm actually looking forward to some closure on a few items.

At least I'll know if I will have to sell the house or buy her out. That's the biggest item on the table for me.
I already have my kids 50% of the time and I am grateful for that.

I want to thank every one who has helped me through the most difficult time in my life. I don't want to name names for I don't want to miss anyone. You all know who are. Thanks a bunch.

Even though I was unable to save my M I think I am a success story........ I saved myself.

This whole ordeal has truley opened my eyes. I have a new outlook on so many things now.... a few being, my outlook on a healthy R and really knowing who I am.

Thanks again all,
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Originally Posted By: gr8 day 2b alive
I saved myself


It is a wonderful feeling once you realize what it is you have truly won out of this whole ordeal.

Great job my friend.

(((((Hugs)))))

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Hi (((gr8 day 2B alive))),

Been following your posts....

I am happy you have found the peace you deserve. You truly ARE a success story- you learned about and saved yourself. Your posting name says it all~
Best wishes for the bright future you will have.

I am getting a D too, H is pushing for it. I did the DB/ 180, all of that, but my STBXH tells me I ruined the M, so we are moving ahead with the D. Like you, I will be okay and happy once all of this is behind me.

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thanks S1S and serenity.

I hope some newbies get a chance to read this so they know there are better days ahead.

I admit I was a total wreck when I just started out.
I am so much happier without W now. I truely believe she may have some regrets but that's on her. I can't help her.

Looking forward to meeting a special lady to share my new self with.
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Hey, GR8-

I, too, am glad you have found the light at the other end of the tunnel. I have followed along but didn't feel I had much good advice to offer. I remember several times when I needed support here that you stopped by and offered it even when you were in the midst of your own hard times. I appreciate that.

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I admit I was a total wreck when I just started out.
I am so much happier without W now.


Man, do I understand. I know I have a lot of hard times ahead of me, but since I have decided that my old M is over and I don't like the person my W has become, I am more relaxed and I really wish she would just go. I started the process with my L but told her to hold on to the papers. I don't want to do the work for my W. I will not be the one to leave my kids. The point is I know what you mean about being happier. Good for you.

Good things will happen for you. For all of the LBS. You have found yourself again. I am happy for you and proud of you.

Good luck!


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