Oh and don't forget how finacially devastated she will be!
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Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
had my D5 house open for school this afternoon. Met W and kids there said hello and we walked in together.
I was happy and upbeat, I made some comments about how well the kids are doing this and that.....
W was very quiet, I could sense anger and negativity bur I didnt let it bother me. I took care of business, finding out all the information I needed to for the days I have her for school.
I said good bye to everyone and walked away to get more paper work and W called me back.
She takes out a check I wrote to her and said could you please sign MY NAME. Looking at the check I noticed I just put her frist and last name, not my last name.
It was an honest mistake and this what I told her. It really was. Then she says- "Can you stop playing games."
I looked her right in the eyes and said I wasn't playing and for her to stop thinking about everything I do. Then I just walked away. I have no desire to play games. I am moving on with my life. I will always be there for my kids.
I am so glad I am away from all her negativity.
I wish her happiness, what that is for her I have no idea.
Meeting on 9/11 to get this ball rolling.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
"So they only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it"
Dale Carnegie
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
"So they only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it"
That says so much about what is talked about her.
Agree with them
Let them go - they can make their own choices.
Support/love/strength/confidence
Boundaries
this quote comes to mind:
"God himself dares not appear before a hungry man except in the form of bread."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
That book works on so many levels: Business Friendship Raising children and of course DBing
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
She still uses her maiden name along with my name.
And since I never write her name, it was a honest mistake.
Apparently, although honest, it was an enormous mistake.
Can she honestly think am playing games??
I am the one to move this D into motion. At first I did it b/c that is what she wanted. Now It's what I want, no games. Just getting it done.
Quite frankly I don't care if she is angry. I used to but I have no feelings for her.
I could go off more on her now and vent but I don't want to.
Thinking positive.
Just reread your post. Are you giving me heat?
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Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I was a little confused. I thought you wrote it out to her maiden name. Of course she can think you are purposely playing games. Who knows what goes on in the crazy brain of the WAS?
No, I wasn't giving you heat. Don't understand what I said to make you think that???
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
I wouldn't worry too much about the maiden name thing on the check. Honest mistake.
I did something similar when I had the big conversation with my W earlier this week. When talking about the house I kept referring to it as her house. She got upset and asked me why I kept referring to it as her house instead of our house. I told her it was an honest mistake. I wasn't even thinking, it just came out that way. Oh well. Funny how they get upset about small things like that when there are far bigger things to worry about.
Hope you're well.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch
