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The whole process is slooow. W will respond when she gets to it, you'll counter when you get to it, etc. Just part of the process I guess?!?

Have fun tonight. smile Perfect weather today, sure tonight will be even better!!!


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Hey mza8,

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Strange that your W still has not gotten back to you about your house.


It's OK. The old me would be thinking maybe she's having second thoughts and hasn't made up her mind.
The new me takes it in stride and doesn't care about why she's taking her time.

It will all work out in the end.

vulcanized( I have to get use to that)

It does seem like a slow process. I know it took me a while to get the house appraised and crunch numbers so now it's her turn to do the same. It's her move.

Thank you both for the well wishes. I hope you both enjoy the weekend too. Finally in the 60's at night.

Time to build a fire and relax out back.


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I feel like I'm in a different limbo now.

I have aaccepted the fact that my M is over and moved on from that limbo.
Now I feel like I'm in limbo land again with the house and finances.

I thought once I gave her what she wanted, agreeing to D, that she would be relieved and would want to move forward.

Almost two weeks have passed and not a word about the email about the house.

I know things will be difficult next month once D5 starts school.

Also I have my S2 3rd b-day coming up and the end of next week.

Oh yeah and it will be my 1 year anniversary (8/21) when the bomb was dropped on me. Or now I would like to refer to it as when the new me was born, haha.

Enjoying one day at a time.
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update

Received a response about the weekend w\schedule for the kids.

I had suggested we take the kids for a full weekend once a month so we could enjoy a weekend for ourselves. Right now I have the kids Saturday afternoon.

She responds back with: Every other weekend would be good.
I'm not sure if I want to do every other weekend.

Also she added that her mom is having people over for S3 B-Day next Friday and as always, I am welcome to come.

Not sure about going there. I'm thinking more on the lines of have a party at home for him on Saturday.


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Do what YOU want. What's best for your S.

My wife wanted to take the girls on Sat to a waterpark in our town. At first I didn't think anything of it, but then realized it was the day I was going to take them fishing for the first time. And she had them all last weekend (4 days) though she only spent 1 day with them while her father watched them so she could get drunk with her friends.

So, fishing it is.

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I agree about doing what's best for the kids.

I did goto D5 party last year at her moms and thant was a week after she moved out. My DB coach suggested I go and enjoy the moment for my D, however that was when I thought there was hope the reconcile.
This time it's different, I'm in a different mind set and really don't want to see her or her family. I also don't want the kids to get false hope by seeing us together. D5 just two weeks ago was crying to me about that so I don't want her to have those feelings revisit her.

W did say at the end of her invite that she would understand if I didn't come.

Her P's have been D for 20+ years. Her mom remarried and dad didn't.
They both would come to family functions in the past.
I think W thinks we will have the same R with eachother has her P's do.

Maybe, but not anytime soon.

She also blocked me from her FB account. I don't know why I could see anything on her wall.

Just waiting for her to reply the the email about the finances.
She replied to my other other emails about the kids and schedule.


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Received an email from W regarding to weekend schedule. She is OK with the once a month schedule. In her latest reply she did invite me to S2 3rd Bday party at her moms. She said I was welcome but understood if I didn't show.

Puppy,ROBX, SMQ- others who know my sitch:

any thoughts on accepting the invitation?

Also should I bring up the fact that it's been three weeks and she still hasn't replied about the house finances?

Feeling a little confused this morning.

Thanks, Gr8


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gr8, that's the same issue I've been trying to unravel. We've always celebrated the holidays with her parents since they live much closer than my parents. But it seems scary how uncomfortable everyone will be. If you can be there for your S, I would go. Those times won't be coming around again...

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Thanks PH,

I did go to my D5 Bday party at her moms last november. But that was a different sitch. She had just moved out 1 week prior to it and I still had a lot of hope back then.

Not sure about going, I know if I don't I will have something for S3 at my house this weekend.

Any thoughts whether to email her about the finances?

If she wanted a D then why the wait?
I emailed her the numbers awhile ago.

D5 starts school in a month so things will once again change with our schedules.

W did talk to my about the kids the pass two times she dropped them off. Which she has said anything to me the prior 50 times.

Not mind reading but maybe she feels more comfortacle around me b/c am not showing any interest in her.

I do want closure though.

I will wait one more week before bringing up the finances.

I would like to lock into a mortgage while the rates are low.


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any thoughts on accepting the invitation?


I wouldn't go. She wants to appear nice for the sake of the kids, it just confuses them and gives them false hope.

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Also should I bring up the fact that it's been three weeks and she still hasn't replied about the house finances?


Just meet to get her to sign the papers, don't wait on her.


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