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In your heart of hearts, she is the one true love of your life. Take the good memories and store them away in your heart and know that you can pull them out whenever you need them to help you along the way.

My friend, God has a special plan for you. We don't know what it is at this time, but when he's ready, he will reveal all to you. You must have faith and hope that the future will be bright once again.

If you have ever noticed, God has a way of tearing things down/apart and rebuilding them into something more beautiful and stronger than before.

I hope that you will have a nice 4th of July. Please do not sit at home alone...get out there and do something w/your family and/or friends.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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G,

I so very much know where you're coming from. I have felt all the same gamut of feelings regarding my M, and who my xW was, for 16 years. I was the luckiest man on earth, or so it seemed.

I don't think I can reconcile the person now with the woman I married, not entirely.

And I too have about come to the conclusion that I don't think it likely I will find another life partner. I feel a strong intuition that I gave my best effort and gave my whole heart to one person, and because of that I won't really be able to top that. I take M too seriously, I guess, especially now.

But never say never. Especially about M.

Hope you have a great day today!


Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

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Marriage is a commitment.
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What a blessing to be able to be able to say you loved, and were loved, completely.

I hope to be able to say that someday.


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G, thanks for sharing the wisdom. Something clicked as I read:


She is gone. It is "over". But there will be no other. There can be no other.


It's painful to understand the meaning of these words but they might be true for me too.


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Thank you, snodderly...


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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac


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Thank you, NCB, hm, Romeo.
Well, since I'm independent, I'm off to celebrate Independence Day. cool


Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac


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But, before I go, gotta post this for giggles.
A very eclectic, humorous and talented singer opened up for Mary Chapin Carpenter: Susan Werner. She was great.

She sang a funny, poignant song about being single: Time Between Trains.
The long "time between trains" being a euphemism for, well... wink crazy grin cool

TIME BETWEEN TRAINS

I'm waitin' at the station
I can choose my destination
I'm a free soul, I got no chains
But it's a long time between trains

I took a long nap, I read a whole book
I got nice legs, I got decent looks
And I'm not one who complains
But it's a long time between trains

And who'd have thought it all those years
That I would find myself back here
Feelin' restless and ignored
Starin' at the schedule board
Wonderin' why the fates above
Always route love through Miami

And somewhere lovers smile their smiles
While I count the ceiling tiles
And well give or take a few
There's one thousand fifty-two
But that depends if you include
The eighty-eight out in the hall

Yes I'm waitin' at the station
With my old friend sublimation
You know the Wright boys designed planes

Must have been a long time, yeah
Must have been a long time
Must have been a long time between trains

www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3PTRvyJv7Q

Enjoy!
Or wince! laugh

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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
[ Steve Earl opened for her (just Steve and his guitar, no band).

I became a die-hard Steve Earl fan after that.


I've been a Steve Earle fan since the middle 80's. He's good stuff. Had bad problems with drugs, but was still very talented and creative, even during that bad time. He is one of my favorites.

Gardener, you've read The Four Agreements, and you know not to take anything personally. Greek has a signature line that says "be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." Everyone has, in their own life, their share of sorrow and suffering.


"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
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Quote:
I've been a Steve Earle fan since the middle 80's. He's good stuff. Had bad problems with drugs, but was still very talented and creative, even during that bad time. He is one of my favorites.


Yep, and the little talks he gives between songs are either hysterically funny or really make you think.

He's on wife number 7. Alison Moorer is her name. Talented lady.

About his first wife:

"She could match me hit for hit and drink for drink, and she could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch, and I was only 25, so how was I supposed to know that wasn't love?".

Last time I saw him was in Philly on "The Revolution Starts Now" tour.

He gave a free concert here in Memphis not too long ago, but I missed it frown

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Originally Posted By: Gardener
Thank you, NCB, hm, Romeo.
Well, since I'm independent, I'm off to celebrate Independence Day. cool


G, you still out there celebrating Independance Day? smile


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Aug 2006, left again
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Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
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