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Hey GM good to hear from you.

I'm pretty much in the same boat when it comes to threads here.
If I can help a newbie early on, I try.


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Journal entry.

Not much has change with W. I really have no need to talk to her nor do I want to.

I received the appraisal back last week and now I need to get a realtor invovled.

Hey mza8, or others,have you come across a situation where someone needed to sell their home for D purposes?

I was wondering if the appraisal value was used or was a value a realtor gave used to determine the real value.

Seems to me that fair market value should be used. The Apraising Company doesn't take into account the esthetics of the home.

Talked to my neighbor this past weekend you went to lunch with W two weeks ago. She told me W didn't bring anything up about the R. I told my neighbor I don't even think about reconciling any more and I have moved on with my life. She said she was happy for me. Maybe W did say something to her, i don't know. regardless I need to TBC with house and kids.

Coach, if you still check in on me, I realized that TCB of ones self and kids is extremely attractive to women. smile


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Originally Posted By: AtTheEnd?
TCB?


Takin Care of Business


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Take Care of Business

Hey Gr8,

I have not been involved with any properties that were sold due to D. However, IMO, I would think the appraisal company's value would be the one used over the realtor's value for the home.

In matters of foreclosure or bank sales, the appraisal company's value is used. Both the appraisal company and realtor will run the comps in the area but the appraisal company's is the more trusted value and therefore is the value that is used.

If you feel that your appraisal company has not taken some things about your home into consideration you can ask them to reconsider those items to calculate a more accurate value for your home. Sometimes they will and sometimes they won't. Doesn't hurt to ask them.

Appraisals are a big problem right now in the real estate market. Since home prices are all over the place right now, it's difficult to get a true value of the home for the lenders.

Let me know if I can answer any other questions for you.

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mza8,

thanks for the input about the house. I think I am going to call them today b/c I knowI need a new roof, among other things.

I have some number crunching to do this weekend.

I hope the stay for the kids sake, I don't want to uproot them from their original home.


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Hey Gr8,

I've been following, just don't have any useful input at the moment. Sorry.

Today sure is a nice day, tho!


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Observation about STBEX communication.
(I know it's not all my fault)

W taking kids to the beach until Sunday. I usually get them Saturday, but we are flexible with things like this.
So a asked W what time will you be dropping the kids off Sunday? She says she plans to leave after breakfast.

Noticing this is a vague statement(That's what I have been dealing with for so long) I ask her to be more specific.

Glad to see she's working on her communications skills.

So I told her I will pick the kids up at X pm.

I'm taking charge now.

Everyone enjoy the Holiday.

Anyone from Baltimore???
Headed there Saturday and looking for some fun activities!
Food, Music?


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Inner Harbor

Fells Point

Towson

Charles Village

Tons of places to go out to and have fun.


Food - steamed crabs w/lots of cold beer
softshell crab sandwhich
Bel-Loc Diner
Polock Johnnies
Berger Cookies - a must have, the best cookie in the world


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