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Have a great time this weekend Gardener! I hope that spending time with old friends reminds you of all the great things about you! Glad to read that detachment is growing smile


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Have a good time Gardener!


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an inner child reflection for you, g, from one of my favorite spiritual writers....
http://ncronline.org/blogs/spiritual-reflections/reawakening-inner-child


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Wow, sounds like the detachment thing is going on for you.

Took a week for the date to register. Thinking "I'm glad she's not here". Seeing the difference between "aversion"=ignore and "neutral"=so what?

What a great place to get to. If, unfortunately, you have to get to it.

I'm betting that when you are making out WHEREever you won't think about X.

(I didn't with Town Meeting Escort! blush)

Have a GREAT weekend!

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Have a good weekend with your friends and thanks for your support!


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Thank you, aver
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Wow, sounds like the detachment thing is going on for you.
Took a week for the date to register. Thinking "I'm glad she's not here". Seeing the difference between "aversion"=ignore and "neutral"=so what?
What a great place to get to. If, unfortunately, you have to get to it.
I'm betting that when you are making out WHEREever you won't think about X.
(I didn't with Town Meeting Escort! blush)
Have a GREAT weekend!
Oh, wouldn't/won't that be nice some day!
It was a great weekend, Will post later.


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Thanks, hm. Looks good. Just printed it and will read it later.


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Hey Gardener, just catching up with people, hope all is well, sounds like it over your last few posts!


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iwitw,
I am well, thanks. Was over at your thread earlier. Revisited it again just now.


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Journaling,

Well, the weekend was great! Far more than I could have hoped for and at a time I needed it most.
Ten close friends who bonded - strongly - back in high school and have stayed in touch and held our own (non-Alumni Association) reunions many times through the years.

This was a truly blessed weekend of reminiscing, catching up, celebrating accomplishments and comforting those few who are in bad places right now and deeply appreciating who we still are and decent lives well-lived.

A day trip to Storm King Art Center in Mountainville, NY was a highlight: It's just south of Newburgh, NY and I can't recommend it enough to anyone who is within striking distance of - or ever finds themselves in - that area: 500 acres of rolling hills, natural meadows and woodlands that are home to beautiful, serene, and massive-scale monumental sculptures by mostly post WWII artists. Awe inspiring beauty and perspective.
www.stormkingartcenter.org

Came home to relax before evening party thrown by first X for S31's Bachelor's degree, for which he decided to go back and finish up about 9 months ago, doing so in accelerated time with the help of his life/acting credits for having acted on stage, TV and Movies as a member of Actors Equity, SAG and AFTRA.

I gave him his "present": a five minute talk to the others - him by my side - starting off with "I love this man standing here," and describing my respect and admiration for him as a man, a son, a father, and as someone who followed his passion from an early age with optimism and unflagging determination. It went well though I had a hard time "keeping it together" (of course) throughout. I thanked and acknowledged his mother, his stepfather (and me!) for having successfully raised a good man. And then I left as it was really primarily a party by and for X1 & her family (who it was great to see again) that he had insisted I be there for.

Came home to empty house and crashed from the weekend. Today, no work as my occasionally bad back is damn near paralyzed and immobile (driving? hotel mattress? Who knows?).

Also today, two emails: One from another customer canceling her account due to, "economy, cutting back." ("Aaaarrgghh!!!). One from X who had refused a verbal agreement on my renting out master bedroom suite, then wanted it in writing, and then wanted it in writing and notarized and NOW is going back to court for a formal Modification (more totally unnecessary L & Court $$). mad

The same X who last week emailed if If there was any way I'd let her lower a temporary monthly $ obligation she has to me per divorce as it's just harder than she expected. I told her I'd consider it. Once this newest courtroom BS on her part is over, that answer will be, simply, "no." cool

Kind of sad today. Probably more just an anticlimactic letdown after a fun, fulfilling, people-filled weekend.

Waiting for house sale more and more begins to feel like waiting for parole. Buried a St. Joseph statue out front last week (what the heck), two scheduled showings yesterday: neither showed up.

IC meeting in less than two hours. Couldn't be more well-timed!


Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac


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