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fm, thanks. At least last night's insomnia was the first one in a while. New IC is very attuned into The Journey from Abandonment to Healing and will use it as part of our session work. But she absolutely insisted I buy You Are The One You've Been Waiting For by F.C. Scwarz and get started on it.

Ordered it last night. Amazon didn't have it so I wound up getting it from The Center For Self Leadership

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Which looks like a very interesting wbsite/organization, though I only skimmed it after purchasing the book.


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hm,
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have you tried valerian? it's an herb, works on the same receptors as Valium and that group of drugs, but has none of the side effects. gotta take the pill form, tho, and not the tea--it smells like dirty socks. but it works very very well, and is so safe that it's recommended during pregnancy.
Yep, got that, too. Never could quite put my finger on that smell but you nailed it. Valium was actually an attempt by pharma to synthesize valerian so they could patent it ($$$, of course).

Hey, you want another great calmness/sleep herb with a putrid smell and awful name? Try Skullcap. Puts me right out!

Anyway, no insomnia tonight, so thanks all and goodnight tired


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have you tried valerian? it's an herb, works on the same receptors as Valium and that group of drugs, but has none of the side effects. gotta take the pill form, tho, and not the tea--it smells like dirty socks. but it works very very well, and is so safe that it's recommended during pregnancy.
Yep, got that, too. Never could quite put my finger on that smell but you nailed it. Valium was actually an attempt by pharma to synthesize valerian so they could patent it ($$$, of course).

Hey, you want another great calmness/sleep herb with a putrid smell and awful name? Try Skullcap. Puts me right out!

Anyway, no insomnia tonight, so thanks all and goodnight tired

really? I did not know that about valerian!! Six years in the poison control center, and you've just taught me something new! Skullcap, eh? I don't usually have trouble sleeping, but I'll keep that in mind! hope you slept well.


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Originally Posted By: Gardener
fm, thanks. At least last night's insomnia was the first one in a while. New IC is very attuned into The Journey from Abandonment to Healing and will use it as part of our session work. But she absolutely insisted I buy You Are The One You've Been Waiting For by F.C. Scwarz and get started on it.

Ordered it last night. Amazon didn't have it so I wound up getting it from The Center For Self Leadership

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Which looks like a very interesting wbsite/organization, though I only skimmed it after purchasing the book.

ok, now I gotta check it out. we are book-like-minded.


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g-man--you like that inner-child, inner-family stuff, eh?! it's good stuff...kinda odd in the beginning, but it really works.


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Originally Posted By: Gardener
fm, thanks. At least last night's insomnia was the first one in a while. New IC is very attuned into The Journey from Abandonment to Healing and will use it as part of our session work. But she absolutely insisted I buy You Are The One You've Been Waiting For by F.C. Scwarz and get started on it.
It sounds like she's a great person to work with! I look forward to reading about how it goes...


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g-man--you like that inner-child, inner-family stuff, eh?! it's good stuff...kinda odd in the beginning, but it really works.
Yep, ever since John Bradshaw's work in the late 70s/early 80s.

It probably sounds odd - if not schizophrenic - but my real name is Bill and when my thinking goes "wrong," Bill usually has a talk with Billy, validates him, reassures him, and, as author Terry Real says, tells him to take his sticky little hands off the steering wheel! smile


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It sounds like she's a great person to work with! I look forward to reading about how it goes...
She is. Don't recall if I mentioned this in a previous post, but I "interviewed" three potential new ICs. I could tell she was good and that she was a no-nonsense person, but what decided it for me was that after spending an hour with her, as i was walking to my car I felt - as odd as this might sound - cared for.


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That is just excellent! no doubt it indicates that "Billy" was engaged as well as "Bill." And if you're doing that kind of work--and it seems you know what works for you, and inner child stuff does--that's exactly the kind of feeling you want to have.

Love Bradshaw, btw. Always have.

Self-aware men are hot. wink


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I just picked up "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing." I like what I'm reading so far.


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