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Out of a 17-year habit (and a sense of optimism for the future), I just purchased two (yes, two) concert tickets for our my favorite singer-songwriter, Mary Chapin Carpenter (as you must all know by now!) for July.
Fifth row Center Orchestra, too! cool
So, feeling a little smile and a little frown about it.

Oh, well.


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How inconsiderate Gardener >:( . It's not enough to abandon you, but to not even stick to the D agreements is really lame.

I hope that as you grow stronger within yourself, her power to hurt you becomes less and less. I know you're working on it smile

Oh, and I'm in it-ended-after-17-years club too (together, not M).

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Originally Posted By: flowmom
I hope that as you grow stronger within yourself, her power to hurt you becomes less and less. I know you're working on it smile
It is and I am. Oh, am I ever!
Normally, in those rare face-to-face encounters, I keep an even keel with two thoughts:
1) I imagine her children - my beloved StepD and StepS being right there while I interact with her and,
2) I try to remember I am dealing with a confused, pained once horribly abused little girl.

Today was momentary and almost an aberration and I let it go. Even laughed it off with the YouTube clip I posted a few posts later laugh

But the chutzpah! And the money! Why must it always come down to money?!? MoneyMoneyMoneyMoney!
I'll never understand, I guess.
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Oh, and
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Oh, and I'm in it-ended-after-17-years club too (together, not M).
Welcome to the club crazy frown


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Hey, don't leave me out! I'm a 17 year club member too.


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Can I join too?- I got 22 years with this guy...

And I'm sorry to hear how the X can still find ways to get her digs into you. I'm glad you're sticking to your guns and enforcing the boundaries and the divorce agreement, that's the only it's gonna stop. Hopefully once the house sells, there's not much for her to bother you about, right?

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G, that sucks! tomorrow will be a new day and this interaction will be behind you. Try to do something that makes you happy.


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Bunny,
Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
And I'm sorry to hear how the X can still find ways to get her digs into you. I'm glad you're sticking to your guns and enforcing the boundaries and the divorce agreement, that's the only it's gonna stop. Hopefully once the house sells, there's not much for her to bother you about, right?Hugs- Bunny
Once the house is sold, the final tie is severed!
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Can I join too?- I got 22 years with this guy...
Sure!
But I gotcha all beat, guys:
1stM: 17 years.
2ndM: 17 years.
Or should I say:
1stM: 17 years.
Last and Final M!: 17 years.
I'm done period.

The first one was a too young, wrong person for the wrong reason M.

This one was 16 years of happy, fulfilling bliss and one year of alien battchit, fog, gaslight, script, memory-editing, history-rewriting absolutely selfish betrayal.
Ppfffttt!!!


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Thanks SR
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G, that sucks! tomorrow will be a new day and this interaction will be behind you. Try to do something that makes you happy.
I already did: all morning until she arrived and all afternoon and evening after she left. grin


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Hey,
Originally Posted By: Gardener
Out of a 17-year habit (and a sense of optimism for the future), I just purchased two (yes, two) concert tickets for our my favorite singer-songwriter, Mary Chapin Carpenter (as you must all know by now!) for July.
Fifth row Center Orchestra, too! cool
So, feeling a little smile and a little frown about it.

Oh, well.
Maybe come July I'll offer the second ticket to any of you wonderful female-type DBers who are within driving distance of Peekskill, NY to be my (sorta but not really) date! cool


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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