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Hey G.

Hope today finds you doing good.


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Healing time: Who IS Gardener? - alone?


Key distinction here: being alone v. being lonely. Two, very different things.

The goal is to be alone, but not lonely. When you reach that, I would say you are "complete." B/c your happiness comes only from within.


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A really good thing happened today.
Rather than re-type, I thought I'd just drag it over here

Awoken,
Thank you so much for tonight. Dinner and conversation were wonderful, though too short by far. I felt like we were two old friends!

The show was great. You are one talented and personable musician. Rene is a natural.

Good to see you after the show, too. Thank you for introducing me to Rene.

Hey, in one night, I GALed, 180ed (Jazz), did something impulsive, got out of my comfort zone, got out of the house, and got to meet a true (no-longer-cyber) friend!

Hey, I could get used to this.
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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Tonight's quick journaling of today's recurring thoughts.

I don't miss her.
I don't miss interacting with her.
I don't miss being married to who she became.
I don't miss living with her.
I like living alone.


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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Hey Gardener!

Wow! Another Connecticut poster on the boards. Donna, Gypsy and I are all from the Nutmeg State! What are they putting in the water in our beloved state? WAS additive?

Welcome to the board. I got better advice here than I did from an $185 Fairfield County therapist! I'm about your age as well, and I never thought I'd be mid-50s and divorced. I was ready to end my life when I first started posting here (usually every 10 minutes!) Four years later, including a trip to Iraq, I could not be happier, and all with the help of the great "faceless people" on this board.

How long have you been divorced. It looks like my loony STBXW will take this all the way to a trial for me UGHHH!

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Hi, FLTC,
Where in Conn? are you? I'm in Wilton not far Donna and Gypsy, who I've both met. Got divorced last Tuesday 2/09. Bomb was 11/09/08. Been on DB boards since 6/09 (wish I'd found it sooner!). Moved over here to Surviving from Newcomers beginning last month, I believe.

This place saved my sanity and my life.

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Monday journaling,

Last minute, spur of the moment dinner with Gypsy, tonight (well, I ate; she watched) since I was up in her area. Despite the coincidence and convenience of my already being there and the last minute invite, she accepted.
I appreciate her graciousness in that.

We had a good heart-to-heart, as always.
Thanks, G-Woman!

Was up in the area to bring some furniture to my beloved DIL. Really glad to see there's no post-D collateral damage with that relationship.

XW's sister (my favorite) lives about two miles from there, so I called her up, too. "Sure, c'mon over!" says she. Had a very good time with her, her H & her S.

I am so glad there appears to be no collateral damage to those relationships, either!

I really love my XSIL.


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Sounds like a great day Gardener, that is awesome!

Someday I hope to meetup with some of you fellow db'er's, would love to match some faces to the board names...


M: 41
STBXW: 41
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Bomb: 4/26/09

On board the D train now..

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iwitw,
It was a great day, all around. As was last night. Thanks.

And hey, re: meeting up. Conn. and Mass. are pretty close (even from Southwestern Conn., where I am). Where are you?


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CTH, one more thought as I reread your post and my reply to it:
Originally Posted By: ClingingToHope
The lady I'm interested in is going through her second divorce.
This has potential red flags all over it! Beware! Be curious! Find out why!

Of course, the irony that this warning comes from the twice-divorced Gardener does not escape me. crazy


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With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
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