Basically I don't want to be look at as a jerk to my W and her family.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Again - you are trying to control how your W or her family view you. And quite frankly I bet they view you as a wimp.
Do you see a pattern here? When your MIL doesn't get her way she either manipulates the situation until she does or she stomps her feet and makes enough noise until people just give in.
Your W does the same thing.
And when your daughters pitch fits (which you have posted about) they are doing the same thing.
Plus I am having to rely on W to pick up my girls this week with my boss in town again as I have no where else to turn on that one with it being my week with them.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
No. But I am not sure playing hardball is going to help things if I start a week and a half before D7's birthday party. Plus D7 wants us both there. It is important to her. Why crush her spirits?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I am actually in a place where I have to rely on my W for help with our kids thanks to my job picking up more lately. If I lose that, I am screwed.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
What are you going to do when you are divorced, have your kids, and have to work?
I don't have another option when I have to stay late. We have been told that we will stay until everything is completed on certain days. I have to work with her to keep that help. There is nobody here that I can rely on to help out with that.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I hate to break this to you but one day both of your daughters will realize the "act" you and your W presented to them for a very long time. Ask any child of divorce. If they have not already eventually they will "get it".
So you would rather rely on your W then find a solution for childcare which you will need to do sooner than later as a single dad?
Drew is right - you have to live with your choices and since you have clearly made choices already what else is there to say to you?
You know, my H e-mailed me two days ago about nothing. I ignored him. He e-mailed my y'day and I ignored that too. Today he texted me wanting to know why I was ignoring him. For a brief second I thought about responding for the 7000th time as to why I choose not to be his friend. Then I decided I was tired of being a broken record. Ya either get it or ya don't!
As long as he is still bedding the woman he cheated on me with and unable to address the enormous pile of crap that he created then there is simply no place for him in my life. EVER. I did my part and he chose not to do his. No problem!
