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I'm sorry, Alison. Maybe you just needed to do a little processing re: OW's baby. I hope you are feeling better now.

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I think the holidays can be hard regardless. I think the best solutions are to keep busy and to change your routine. Even though I have a perfectly fine artificial tree, I went and boutght a real one this year. It smells lovely. The girls have never had a real one and the bioys were pretty little so they don't remember having a real one. I also didn't use my old, sentimental ornaments. No reason to hurt myself. There will be a time when I can use them or pass them on to my kids but just not this year.

You also seem to be doing well on the dating front. I have been divorced 1.5 years and still haven't gone on a date. I am not really trying at the moment, just want to get to a good place for me. All in good time I think.

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Naej,
The baby wasn't the only reason I stayed home. D14 was ill and I'm also really not enjoying my current job. I have major issues with how my line manager goes about managing and yesterday it all just got too much for me.


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I am feeling a bit better today. Although for some stupid reason I spent the whole night dreaming about the guy I had the fling with in August. I don't want to dream about him, he isn't available and he didn't want me so the dreams were very irritating.

I'm off to a Christmas party tonight so hopefully that will give my mood a bit of a kick start.


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Glad your feeling beter Al, hope the party is great. I didn,t mean to sound harsh,believe me I have had many duvet days and issolated myself too often and now I see that I did myself no favours.
Yep, hear you on the job thing and when its another factor it all gets too much.
Strange with the dreams. I had a fling awhile ago,I knew it was just that but had fun. I ended it but every now and again I want it back.
How I expect any man to understand me when I am a mystery to myself is beyond me lol.

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I knew it was just that but had fun. I ended it


that's part of the problem Naej. He told me at the first date there was no longevity becaused he wanted babies! He knew from the start that I had three grown up children. He pursued me (all be it for a week.) It was my first encounter (in more ways than one) after H and I felt very let down. I wasn't prepared for 'fun'at that stage (which is all he wanted from me)so I ended it but now that I am he is all loved up with someone he does want to have babies with (and he must have met her VERY soon after me).

I know why this has happened. It's because FB changed thier privacy settings. I couldn't see his profile before but he could email to mine (which he has). Now the site keeps asking if I want to send him a friends request. I very much want to but know it is not the right thing to do. I'd like to think he would ask me but he won't.


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FB doesn't care whether you send a request or not. If you don't want to then just hit the x in the corner. Then you won't get that request again. You are the one in control!


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If you don't want to then just hit the x in the corner

That's part of the problem. I do want to send him a request but know it is not the right thing to do.

I'm very low at the moment


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Just hit the x


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