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i got the paperwork for the child support, of course it cant be filed on wednesday! as if one should know that!

went to the police, dropped off the phone records, they told me to call at 5:00 when my officer assigned to my case is in.

i showed the text to the officer and she was like, um, she is truly a troubled person...


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t:10 years
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im having alot of trouble with the letters going back and forth with our attorneys. granted, we certainly havent gotten anywhere near a settlement, but im so not interested in a separation/divorce.

i do not like seeing our names vs. eachother.

i guess im lucky im in ny, its a fault state so i can argue just about anything since he has no grounds on me.


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I know how you feel about seeing your names at the top of the papers and it says vs. between you. Kinda reminds you of a caged fight on some wrestling show. LOL

Take a minute a breath. Remind yourself that you are doing this for your son and that your H really isn't helping out finacially like he should be. You are ABSOLUTELY correct in filing the papers to get support. Do your best not to waiver from it. It is a scary process but in the end you'll be able to feel 'free' knowing that you have tried your best to secure finaces for your son.

Keeping reminding yourself that you would not be in this situation if he had not put you there in the first place.


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thanks...u are so right, he put me in this position.

spoke to my officer, im going to criminal court on friday to apply for the order of protection, he is putting out the warrant between now and then.

the problem will be the police locating her. the last known address is not where she lives. i gave him the cross street of where she is now, but its not good enough.

hopefully someone at the old address will know of her, it is an all polish area.

she will be served with the order and then arrested. he said that even if a judge doesnt find the warrant justified, i would still get the order.

h is going to flip!


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Good -- let him.

You're having to turn to the police to do what HE took a vow to do:

PROTECT YOU.

And your son.

The fact is, it's unconscionable that you even had to DO this.

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wow, good for you. Having the police take such a hardline on this is great. I feel like they are validating you and your stance that what she is doing is not right, I appreciate what they are doing.

I didnt expect for her to be arrested, but that is what she deserves! She has been stalking you as far as Im concerned.


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oh wow, things are real ugly. real ugly. police called and left her a message that she will have a warrant out for her arrest or she can turn herself in and be arraigned.

well he has been flipping on me like u dont even know.

that i should do him a favor and drop it. i was like a favor?

so many details, too much to write.

he told me he will never be seen again, never see his son again because of this. he will dissapear.

what does son have to do with this?


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Just remember you are doing the right thing, mdoodles. You need to stop taking his calls. He is going to say anything right now.....he is panicking. Get a friend to come over. Turn off the phone. DO whatever you need to do, but don't talk to him until she is locked up and he has cooled down. If you are worried about your safety or your son's (from this OW), I would call the police.

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thanks. u are a right.

im also bothered because i questioned the baby thing again and he was weird about it and said he will know in a few days.

i wonder if he questioned her text to me and and she lied and said maybe she is pregnant?

please pray that she isnt. i dont need that too..


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Prayers are coming your way.

I have been following your thread only because it is so different. lol. Its like reading a psycho soap opera happening. I hope and pray for the best outcome for you.

Kevin


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M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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