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Originally Posted By: mdoodles
pretty sure she cannot contact me and cannot come near me or my son or anyone in my family.

i wish i knew what she meant in that message. im terrified that she is pregnant (knock on wood please).


Oh, more likely just that she wants you to THINK that might be.

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well, they told me my report from sunday is already being processed so i dont know how important filing another report is. he is home sick and is very involved and will be very afraid if the police are here, not to mention he will tell my husband.

the police told me it is not pressing for me to file it again right now, that i can come down to the station even tomorrow.


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Originally Posted By: Kettricken
JMHO, but I don't know how seriously you will be taken if you keep putting the cops off like this. I understand you want to protect your son, and that is admirable, but why can't you send him to his room to play for the duration of the phone call or the visit or whatever? Maybe others have a better understanding of how these things work, and will chip in their insights. But to me, if they're being responsive enough to your (valid) concerns to offer to send an officer, take them up on it.


I absolutely agree.

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well here is some good news - got the application for that nice apt complex in the mail, i was on a waiting list.

hoping to get it all filled out and returned in the next 2 days and get this rolling so i can enroll son in school and tell him we are moving.

this is what i should be focused on, not the crazy psycho. still wondering what were message meant and why h has not called.


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h finally called, all nicey nicey....so i said, hey did u get my messages and he said, no what messages. i said, that son is sick. he was in shock and was like, um no whats wrong? when did u call?

i said, i sent u a text at 5 am and left a voicemail. he never got it. i told him what was wrong with son and then told him i was getting calls in middle of the night and the crazy text message.

he got all bent out of shape about it and said something like, whatever the messages say are lies, its finished, the calls are done. then he said something like he doesnt know who started it.

seems pyscho likes to tell him i call her, text her etc. i was like, u know ive had nothing to do with this.

he really didnt want to talk about it.

did they smooth everything over already and things are all fine and dandy now?

do we think she will call again?


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I think that she will continue to try and contact you until something is done to put a stop to it. You are doing the right thing by filing a report agianst her and possibly getting a restraning order.

If that text came from her, it was probably a ploy to get you all riled up. It seems that is her favorite game to play. What did your son say about all the screaming that he heard from his dad or about all the phone calls?

I understand your hesitancy on conducting any kind of police visit with your son around. It would be unfair to have him hear you mention his daddy to the police. I am behind you 100% to not have the police come to your house when your son is there.

I am hoping and praying that you get this apartment that you are filling out the app for. I am also praying that the psycho is not pregnant!!! Hang in there. You are doing great.


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doodles, I think that the only intention of that message was to freak you out. And I think that its something that your H actually admits that everything she says is lies. How strange that he would have to want to anything to do with someone who he has to explain away like that.

I hope that you can find some peace now, and that she really will leave you alone, though part of me really hopes that she gets just enough rope to hang herself with.


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i have to say, this whole love triangle thing is making me backtrack in my progress. the other night, with her calling, invading my home while we were all sitting at the kitchen table, made me feel like they were going to be done, like he was going to leave her. not so much that he would come back to me, but they would be done.

and are they? dont think so.

and i shouldnt care. i was moving on, doing things to move forward, and i feel myself slipping,.

i dont want to go to family court, i dont want to deal with this stuff.


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im getting ready to leave for the police station and family court.

im doing the right thing, right?

i feel myself slipping, not wanting to request the money, but its the right thing, isnt it?

i find myself considering trying to talk to him about the money, not wanting to go through with this, but on the other hand, havent i played nice enough?


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YES, YOU HAVE, and you are ABSOLUTELY doing the right thing. For yourself, and for your son.

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