I hope things are a little better for you today. Mishka had some good suggestions. There are also some online things where people meet up based on common interests (not necessarily a dating thing). I'm less inclined to go that route, but I'm old and cynical. Ok, cynical
I have no doubt you can do anything you put your mind to.
Im better today...not alot but some. I really think its because I feel like Im in limbo....I have no clue how to separate myself from my H in a way that I need to.
Im having a hard time with things lately. I guess I just need answers. 2 1/2 years is long enough already. I feel like im being dragged.
But on the sunny side! I lost another pound. I even had a dinner today at church and I ate only what was on my plan! No sweets, breads or carbs! I did great! But it all looked so good!
Now I need to eat some supper!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
you and i should talk! you can find my thread under infidelity, its called he is back, i think.
my h originally left in oct 06, similar to your time frame, he has come back and left 2 times since, most recently this week.
i havent followed your thread much, but maybe we can help eachother, it seems my h has crawled back into his hole once again with the ow and left a huge mess on my side.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
He is weird. I told him that and he said thank you.
Then he told me that even his therapist said he was weird.
He seems to be in his own little bubble.
He has no emotions. No nothing. I could have said anything to him last night and got away with it!
He seemed not to care about anything.
I think this is just his way of not thinking about anything.
He is still in crisis.
I feel better after talking to him though. Made me see that he is still the same. Not that i ever had any doubt.
Hoping for a good day and with God anything is possible! even the Impossible!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I guess whenever you start to doubt yourself or your R with H, just talk to him for a few minutes and that'll straighten you out! JK of course!
Actually that does work!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I have to say that when my H is up, he is really up, but when he is down, it is way down...there is just no in between. I cant keep up with him anymore.
So, he stops talking that much to me over the last month or so. That has kinda gotten me out of the habit of talking so much to him....so, now what does he do?? He wants to know how come Im not talking to him much anymore??? UHH, maybe because when I do I get nothing back! Its boring talking when he is down...but now, lately he is back up again...almost a high. So, he wants to talk alot more than I am....
I cant keep up with him at all...He is just so inconsistant!!
Anyway, doing pretty good lately...just celebrated my daughter's 13th birthday! I feel old now...lol.
Hope everyone is doing good.....dont hear from anyone much anymore...except those few good friends that keep checking in on me. Guess my sitch is kinda boring for now.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Do you know if he is still in C? Just curious if he might be having some sort of effects from AD's or if this is just his norm now. Was always up and down while you were together?
I saw the pics of the bd party! It looked like loads of fun. Your D is absolutely beautiful. You must be so proud! You feel old? Ha! I hear ya on that one! My son is 14, 15 in November, and it's KILLING me!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks Mishka...my daughter had a blast! And she is beautiful, inside and out!
My H is still in counseling once a week. He is not on any meds anymore. He was never up and down when we were together. That just seems to be normal for him now. It just confusing to me.
He has called to talk to me the last few days...just chit chat. Sunday we are suppose to all go to a ballgame together with my son. We will probably ride together considering its an hour drive...dont know if Im looking forward to it or not...I guess it depends on his mood that day.
Yes, sometimes boring is good.
I read over the MLC stages again yesterday. I think somewhere along the acceptance stages, they can act like kids, or something not normal for them....I saw that in him last week at my son's tkd meetings....he was really acting foolish, immature.
Weird....thats what i call him now.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
will someone please talk to me!!!! I need to know why my H would text me and say that I insulted him today and then he REFUSES to tell me WHY???
All he could say was for me to think about my afternoon!!!
UGH! the ONLY thing i can think of was that he texted me today and I didnt answer right away, then I didnt give an explanation to why I didnt answer, like he was probably expecting.
Im so irritated with him right now...I even told him that!! All he can say is that he cant or wont tell me now!
Im reaching my boiling point with him!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
JK of course!