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1) Poster-specific. Your "home" thread. STICK TO IT, post to it regularly (even if you're not getting a lot of responses), as it's a good journal for yourself and it's therapeutic.
2) Topic-specific. You can OCCASIONALLY supplement your main thread with one that's topic-specific, such as "She's Back on The Pill -- Cause for Alarm??" or some such. The more provocative the title, the more response you'll probably get.
Keep your posts short to medium, use lots of paragraph breaks, and JUST KEEP POSTING. And post to others.
Hope that helps,
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time
For example, in this quick reply, if I type too much, I can no longer see what I'm writing, is there a way around that?
Also, people make these nice short quote boxes, how is that done? When I try to quote, the whole thing gets copied and I then have to delete what I don't want. But others have them throughout their posts with nice replies after each quote.
Thanks for the help!
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW
When your post is bigger than the box you should be able to scroll though it, or use the scroll bar on the right of the post. I don't know that there is any way to make the actual box larger.
As far as quoting, it's a matter of typing [ quote] and [ /quote] (without the extra space after the first bracket, on either side of the quote you want. You can either copy in sections, or quote the whole thing, and add the tags to quote the different sections. the key is for every start quote, there is an end quote (the one with the /. Practice a bit, and you'll figure it out!
Jeff The poster formerly known as dry_heat
Me-49 D 11/30/09 S12,16,21,22 Current:Wandering Poster 56-Take a step that is new... Where the Rockettes Play!
I posted a new thread in the infidelity section yesterday, but it told me that it had to be approved by the moderators. How long does this process usually take. I am in a dire situation, so the communication needs to come quickly.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
It has nothing to do with the length of your posts, OMW--it has more to do with moderator time and number of posts in cue. I apologize for the delay. Newcomers always has a large number of posts in cue.
What does it take for me to be able to be unmoderated? I have a topic but it seems like the delay in my posts always pushes me to the 2nd page and beyond when it finally shows up in Newcomers. I've only had dbmod respond to my post and can't get the assistance and/or support I'm looking for. I've done two calls so far with Leni and each time she asks me what the community has said...but the community isn't saying anything because I'm fully moderated and they hardly see my posts...what do I need to do?
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
help i need some my life seems over i need advice to stop my divorce im devestatd my wife is in love with someone else ive been married 11 yrs been with her for 17. I have three beautiful daughters who dont deserve this.
I'm sure there are good reasons for moderating. When I was a member here many years gone by, under a different id that I can't even recall. Moderation was not part of the process. Sort of sad. I recall the incredible feelings of despair when I was in the throws of divorce. 24hrs felt like a lifetime and the littlest things, like a response from someone, brought some essence of calm.
Might I suggest that moderators bump postings to the top so at least they don't fall off page 1. Or possibly a methodology for users to verify who they are to moderators. Allowing them to be removed from the moderation list sooner... Just some thoughts. I can see some people are frustrated and I understand their pain.
So how about this. New users who agree to provide a cell number get a txt back with a code. They can enter the code into the site and be removed from the moderator list. That way if they get their id revoked you have a cell number on file to cross reference, should they attempt getting a new id.
I posted in newcomers about two days ago and only one of them has shown, any ideas when the other will be up. Concern because my post is now past page three and I would really like to see responses from other members.
M-41 W-41 D-7 M- 10yrs I still love you, but 4-25-12 Think she might have EA/PA 5-17-12 Confirmed PA 6-9-12
I've posted 6 times in the last 3 days (reflected in my profile), started my own thread, the rest were replies---I can't see anything I've posted. When I go to "My Stuff" >>> "Posts", nothing.
Is there a set number of posts I need to make in order to get out of moderation, waiting for a mod to have time to be online to clear stuff is hard. No other forums I am a part of moderate in this specific way, so I am clueless.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I am a new poster, and I have to find a little humour in this. I think a partof what got my marriage not trouble is not having enough patience.....so having to wait for post approval is a small step in learning a bit of patience. ;-)
I apologize for whatever I did that caused me to be placed on moderation. I did read the rules and thought that my posts were within them; apparently I was incorrect. I will be sure to post nothing even remotely questionable in the future. Please, please would you be so kind as to take me off moderation? This board has been my lifeline through the most difficult time in my life, and if I may say so, I think that my support has been valuable to others as well. As I am sure you are aware, it is difficult to give and receive advice and support when on moderation.
Thank you for your consideration.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
How would one know if they were on moderation? I have posted several times recently and even days later I don't see my messages show up. I'm guessing I haven't been approved yet. I take it we just wait and keep sending out posts and eventually...?
M: 36 W: 31 Married 9 yrs. T: 11 yrs. Son 8 yrs. (w/ Autism) Bomb Drop 10/22/13 Divorce final 6/15