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Snow..

I am sorry that you have to deal with any of this. A little like too little to late.

Nc said it perfectly. I think a lot of us are getting to that point, some more than others. I can definately see how all the deciet, lying and abuse can bring you to this point, I really can.

I see myself drifting in the other direction, Im not at the point you are, but everytime something terrible happens it just one more nail in the cofin.

Hang in there..You do what is best for you and your D. You will be ok.

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Things seem to be calming down, H is less agressive in his want to reconcile, although he seems very depressed.

Nocode, thanks for the post. I try very hard to treat H well. He is and always will be someone I care about very much and I do not enjoy hurting him regardless of what he has done to me.

I also seem to be faring a little better emotionally but you know hormones, everyday is different!


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Hey!

I hadn't seen you post in so long. I did a random search today and your thread popped up. Sorry you've been dealing with some drama, but sounds like things really have shaken your H's world up.

Hope you are doing well!

Have a good week!


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Happy Valentines Day, Neecy.


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Thanks TAL, Michele, No Code,

I haven't been around so I didn't know this thread wasn't just dead.

I am waiting, for a day when things get easier!

I have now been contacted by the income tax department because they think I am fraudulently claiming that my husband doesn't live here and want me to pay back the Child Tax Benefit. And the lovely thing is is that none of the items (and they want 3) that they have listed as sources of proof even exist!

I have scheduled myself for IC starting on Monday - it is over the phone so we will see if that works. I need to really discuss my urgent need to have "someone" as I discussed earlier in this thread.


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What items did they want?

You have a freaking separation! Send them a copy of that. Send them a copy of his lease or a letter from his parents or whomever he's living with saying he is living there.

GL with counseling.

(((((BIG HUGS)))))


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I spoke with someone from tax who was less than forth coming. I hunted him down - which is something that was easy for me to do with the fact that I work for a different agency for the same gov't he does. It looks like I have to send every piece of evidence I have and even then it is a big decision on their part.


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I've been on a bit of an emotional roller coaster lately.

As I discussed previously in this thread I finally came to the decision to move forward - away - from my marriage. This was not an easy decision and its not one that I am not constantly thinking about.

This week everything should be final for me talking possesion of the house. I have been on pins and needles about it. But when the lawyer called to say I have to come in and sign, I felt like I wanted to burst into tears.

I have an interview this week - it is 5 hours long, it is for the job I have wanted since I started at my place of employement. I am scared and excited but I feel like if I miss out on this I will start spiraling down.


The thing about no longer "working on" the marriage is that I feel like I have no vision of the future. Like what now if I'm not working on something.

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with all my GAL stuff cause its like I have something to do everynight.

Am I on speed how many different thoughts are in this thread!


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LOL

Good luck with your interview!

Your vision of the future is now entirely what you make it. It's about you and D5 and no one else. So enjoy it, be a little selfish, enjoy the time with your D5, and make some time just for you.


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I just got back from my good girlfriends house. She is a person that I met through my GAL activity this summer playing slo-pitch. She insisted I come over today and cook. She is tired of my pathetic eating habits. Last night I ate stove top for dinner - just stove top.

So we cooked up all my meat, brown rice, egg noodles, and whole wheat pasta, brocolli, squash and sweet potatoes and I have 8 individual meals plus a little container with a bunch of stuff that can be a few days with sides.

I know how to cook, I am an excellent cook but really just can't be bothered for just me - and D5 has a very small list of choices.

So this is a good thing.

Tomorrow is daddy and D day, I am going with 2 girlfriends to see "He's just not that into you" I read the book its a pretty good laugh.


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