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Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives #1588677
09/11/08 04:41 AM
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Last thread (recaps my sitch)

So I have been in my new house for about 6 weeks.
I have joint custody of my kids. (Final Orders most likely in Jan-11 months after bomb)

FIRST LIFE:
My parenting time is Sun/Mon/Tue and Alternate Sat.

SECOND LIFE:
I have "ME" time Wed/Thurs/Friday.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1588705
09/11/08 04:59 AM
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I have a similar life.
Sun pm, mon, tue am, alternate weekends: I am a parent. All else, it echoes around here.


Thrd 1 Thrd 2
Me40 W39
Bomb Aug27, 07
S12
D9
Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Tostada] #1590645
09/12/08 08:45 PM
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Hi friends,

"Light bulb moment"

Anyone think that their spouse COMPLETED THEM? I think all these 180's complete us. I think the "ROLL REVERSALS" complete us.

I have been reading Hendrix:"Keeping the love you find" and he stated that you are attracted to traits that S has that you wish you had.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1590651
09/12/08 08:48 PM
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Also,

I realized today I don't miss my W. Not sure how long I have felt like this.

Anyway just sharing my FEELINGS....


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1590923
09/13/08 03:25 AM
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Maybe we weren't together long enough, but I never thought my spouse completed me. I do feel that I lost myself somewhere along the way trying to please her and plan for my family's future. I forgot to take care of myself and in turn wasn't taking care of my family.

I know the feeling of not missing the W. Thinking back to recent times makes it easy to be okay with the way things are now. The only time I miss my W is when I think of the future and how I imagined it when we got married.

Keep sharing your feelings and advice. Thanks for all your help.

Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1591012
09/13/08 05:16 AM
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Hey Ready..

Hope you're having a great time out in the wilderness. Post the pictures so I can see what a mountain man you are!

I always felt that he 'completed' me. He filled a void I didn't know I had.

Role reversal is a challenge for me.. though I don't know if I'll be a high level executive. I'm pretty proud of the fixed toilet, though

The idea of the 'two lives' is so interesting. Part of mine has stayed the same... still at the same home (for the present) with my daughter and the boys when they visit.

Have fun! Thanks for having such good thoughts. Is sharing feelings a new thing?

About not missing the spouse.. for me it was not missing the tension that was so constant it felt normal. I DO miss what was good, I don't miss feeling like crap.

What I do have to remember is.. I probably think about him far more than he thinks about me. Time to GAL

*hugs*

*hugs*

Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Gypsy] #1591334
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"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1591391
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Looks steep, Ready! And has that delicate beauty.

Thanks for sharing.

*hugs*

Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Gypsy] #1591408
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Hopefully I can make it out one more time before season ends at end of Sept. Very beautiful out there...


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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Re: Ready2Change (7) - Two Lives [Re: Ready2Change] #1591745
09/14/08 09:33 PM
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Kids will be here in 1.5 hours! Can't wait!


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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