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~~ borrowing C2 thread lol~~

Well Donna you know I have heard holidays are a bad time for the MLCers, if thats what you believe your H is going thru, I know mine was/is-
AND to add to it, the 9th was his 43rd b.day he bombed me the day before, left for work the next day on his b.day but never came back... to live, dumb bunny I had a cake and gifts too lol

Enjoy your familes this weekend kids, thats whats important right now. I expect a bombardment any time now from mine lol


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Donna & Karen,

Hope your 4th celebrations went/are going well. It is important we create new memories for holidays and I'm working on mine as well. Yesterday I was thinking of last year's celebration at the house of one of my son's classmates and that was a blast. Sadly, the father of that classmate is the one who left his wife for another woman ARGH! So even yesterday the 4th was dampened a bit as I thought of that family.

It was a great time with my son though, we did the kinds of things a father and son would do Daughter was with her friends \:\( but I understand.

As always, more later, I am off to meet with my men's group (I'm late \:o ) and then I'll get my son so we can play some basketball. Plans for the beach this evening with some friends from church or a coworker's anniversary party with dancing to 70's & 80's music. Tough decision...


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YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO C2,

Glad you had a nice 4th with your son. Your daughter sounds like my youngest. God forbid they should miss anything with their friends...sheesh!

That was sad to hear about another friend leaving their family. This week alone I heard of 2 more families going through this. I don't understand. Maybe it's just the fact that it was always this bad but it isn't until everyone around us has reached middle age that we see first hand how rampant this is. Wonder how all of this will affect our kids and their marriages........

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Hola Bethie y mis amigos y amigas!

Quicke post before Evening service. (Yes Sunday a.m., midweek service, sunday night, Mondays men's groups, never a dull church related moment for this guy).

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I don't understand. Maybe it's just the fact that it was always this bad but it isn't until everyone around us has reached middle age that we see first hand how rampant this is.


Maybe and maybe not. This is one man's perspective and if others disagree, I am not here to argue with them, they can just skip past my thread (basically I'm not here to start a debate).

Once this country was fairly moral. It was wrong to get pregnant out of wedlock, getting pregnant meant you kept the baby, if you were married, you stayed married often, "for the sake of the kids." My goodness, they could actually post the 10 commandments in schools and talk about God without fear of being sued.

Fast forward another 45 years and we have Today's society. Porn is called a music video, there is no absolute truth etc, etc, etc and if you are not happy, change your mate like you trade in a car.

There is a God, there is a devil and the former is not pleased adn the later has been given more of a free reign to do what he will in this country, period.

This is not new, world history has shown that great powers frequently had cycles in the neighborhood of 200 years from their rise until their fall. They usually were not conquered form without, but usually imploded from within, mainly from moral decline.

It is not new in the bible either. God loved and loves Israel but He called them a "stiff necekd" people because of His repeated and repeated and repeated grace and mercy to them all throughout the old testament. They would get in trouble and He would deliver them. this can be found in Nehemiah, judges, exodus, Daniel etc.

My point we reap what we sow, and what a mighty, might work God would do if this country turned back towards Him but the odds are against us. In the meantime it is going to get worse.

God IS so loving and people get crucified when they say the stuff that is happening to marriages is because society has turned its back on Him, but we have.

So should we be depressed? Should we just throw in the towel? Heck no! God is love and for those how are hurting, He loves them unconditionally. For the doomed impossible marriage, He can still turn things around (but He will not force His desire or will on anyone, case in point, I was willing my X was not, end of story), can He save the drug dealer, the drunk, the addict, the convict? YES, some of my best friends and I (drunk) were some of those things.

Ok, I got to leave because I GET to go to church. It is a choice and a hard fought for freedom which many have died for (even to go to churches which I do not follow, it is their right in this country to have the freedom of religion ). In China, they do not have that choice and people are being harassed and persecuted for their faith. People are still being imprissoned and forced to make goods for this and other countries because of what they believe.

Divorce Busting? God has used Michele to bust many divorces but sadly many marriages have been busted because our society says it is ok to do so whereas 40 plus years ago, society said it was a no, no.

Time to go love and praise God. He still weeps over this nations choices.


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Well C2,

I do agree with everything you said. When people aren't accountable there are no boundaries. I guess that's why having no moral code makes adultary and everything else you mentioned more acceptable. I can understand that people in their 20's and below may have some confusion in this area because let's face it, this is what they know. When you see people in their mid- thirties and beyond who were brought up with values and that the belief that marriage and family are sacred, you just have to wonder how they excuse themselves into thinking that what they are doing is right or that they won't be answerable.

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you just have to wonder how they excuse themselves into thinking that what they are doing is right or that they won't be answerable
Oh, X felt that way too but compromised and then felt that God was giving her permission to toss out her marritale vows. Everything is "morally relative" nowadays. \:\(

GREAT intro to our next book of study for Sunday nights. Wonderul fellowship and then I took a brother to the pier to get coffee and desert. It was wonderful evening.


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Happy Monday!

I am in a mood of anticipation as to what exciting things will happen this week. Life is very full with activities with my kids, church work etc.

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Kind of a reminder to myself. Over the weekend I had a choice to to go an anniversary party of a coworker or to go fellowship with some of my closest friends. I had really been feeling the itch to dance and it was a 70's - 80's theme so I decided to go to the party with my best friend but at the last miniute he had to cancel (his child was sick).

Ultimately, even though I was being drawn to go fellowship, I went to the party which was disappointing because there was NO ONE to dance with \:\( It was small, mostly family sitting at tables, paired up as couples.

On Sunday, my friends told me they were all looking for me and that they had the most amazing time.

I can hardly think of a time that I went to fellowship or went to a gathering that was church related where I had a bad time. On some occasions, it was uneventful but the huge majority left me feeling so refreshed, energized, thankful, joyful and a whole host of other emotions, all positive.

Next time I am faced with a similar situation, I will choose Him, for He never disappoints me.

Lesson learned! (again) \:\)


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Really nice post C2! A reminder to us all.........

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stop having such a good time on your own! share \:\)

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Everything is "morally relative" nowadays.

and how! stbx rationalized most of his wrong actions, if it felt good to him and distracted him, then it was ok. The rest of his mistakes were attributed to him being confused, umm, there is only so much you can chalk up to "confusion" (or a lack of will to think straight and not leave your morals by the road).


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Hmmm, wasn't actually having a good time, just getting through a challenging time at work. Decided to have some left over ice cream from a pot luck \:\) and my mood lightened

Something else happened but we'll see where it leads. Potential Business Client moments ago informed me she went in a different direction. This means business ties are no longer an issue which means that if I want to find out if there is any potential for a non business friendship, I will need to take a risk.... \:o

We shall see....


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