Cat, Camping with the kids for 3 days with just mom? How cool is that! You and the kids will have such a good time getting out from under this emotional blanket for awhile and bond in ways that you never imagined. I am excited for you and the kids...I might be camping soon as well....maybe a little different kind of camping ..peace...
I was never into camping, but they like it so much, I was rooting for a cabin but they were all out, only had one night, so 1 night on a cabin 2 nights tent, I'm looking for a propane stove now, dont' know I'm going to feed us all for 3 days without electricity (they were out of tent site with hook ups) so good luck to us all, lol
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
thanks for being my crying shoulder everyone))))))))))))))) I was one min. from calling him and tell him how crappy I was feeling andwhy, and it would've been the same crap "well, you need to talk to your T about it", and he would've been right, as OT puts it , it is like a victim seeking comfort from its abuser.. totally useless
Oh man have I ever been there. Funny how they can so easily pawn us off as the one with the problem and take absolutely no responsibility for what they've done. My head used to spin because I couldn't wrap my brain around that, but I've seen the same scenario so many times now that I just think it's all part of their illness. Oh and the victim seeking comfort from the abuser...my therapist said that as well. It was one of the few comparisons that stuck with me. When I would get the urge to call, either just to hear his voice or to try to "break through" , I would repeat that in my head over and over again until the feeling passed.
You did good cat. Can you recognize what a strong person you have become?
Focusing on the camping trip and the fun stuff is the best thing that you can do. There's nothing you can do about him anyway. He sounds to be the type that almost has to go the whole 9 yards before he'll ever realize what is that he's done. It will be amazing to watch how wonderful he thinks his life is with OW a year from now. I'd bet money that you're the one that comes out of this happier simply because you've done the work and you know what's important.