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fig #1374783 03/03/08 09:45 PM
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Hi Fender.........

Just wanted to stop by and say hi along with a thank you for the suggestion on the grief counseling. I did talk to my daughter about going and it has seemed to help, so it's worked out.

Good luck with your job and pace yourself man!

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Bethie

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Originally Posted By: fig


that schedule would kill me!!!

ugh


LOL, it may kill me.

BTW, just wondering what kind of shoes or boots you guys were at work? I am on my feet all night and my feet are toast after every shift. I have had foot surgery twice in the last five years and that was with a job that I could stay off of my feet, now I can't and OUCH!

I bought some Rockports yesterday and will be checking them out tonight. Hopefully I will get some relief.

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Fender #1375231 03/04/08 09:07 AM
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What's the weather there? If it's nice, I suggest some neutral colored strappy sandals.......Goes with anything and verrrrry sexy!!!!

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They have a foot store here...it's where my dad goes...he has foot problems too...they are spending but they measure your feet, talk to you about what kind of job you do blah blah blah and then create a shoe for you

would you like me to swing by and see if they have some sort of email thing or something...I'm sure they must

my dad has weak ankles, foot surgery and fallen arches. He works in a warehouse

he would hobble home until he finally just caughed up the money and now he is cool

I think they do some sort of insert thing too so you could wear whatever as long as you had inserts

and

I like docs

just sayin'


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Definitely look into something. Foot pain is a killer and looks like you know all about that with having surgery and all. Fig's suggestion sounds good. Good shoes are worth the price. I get heal pain and wear inserts for that and it makes the world of difference.

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Thanks Fig. The Rockports felt pretty good last night.

BTW, I my podiatrist made custom inserts for me a few years ago. They help some but my feet still hurt.


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Fender #1375894 03/04/08 11:42 PM
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Ok, a little journaling here. Spring break for D12 is coming up this month. I have been wondering what she could do with a whole week off and decided that she could go and visit my parents. She has done this in the past and they love having her since they are both retired.

So I asked D12 what she thought about going to her grandparents house for the week? She then told me that her mom was thinking of having a "few" days off during that time so they could spend some time together.

So I was in a quandary about what I should say to the X about her going to my folks? I talked to my GF and she reminded me that 1 I have D12 all but 4 days a month. Her mom makes no special effort to she her more than that even though she has some days off during the week, or used to until she took a second job.

GF suggested that if the x is unwilling to take the whole week off that I should insist that D12 go to my folks for the week. So tonight when the x called to talk to D12 I told her if she couldn't do the whole week that D12 was going to my folks. She didn't even resist, she just said ok.

This woman has pretty much checked out on her youngest D. The whole reason she has a second job is that she amassed a huge amount of debt and continues to do so. For example, she just bought a second Chihuahua from the same place she bought her first one. I don't know for sure how much she paid for it but the last one was $500. So doesn't even have time to spend with the first one so now she has a second one! So that is more debt and get this, she knows D12 needs spring clothes but hasn't offered to buy her any. She gives me zero money towards D12's upkeep and I know that is what I asked for but you would think a mom would take her D shopping for clothes once in a while.

So she can continue to do crazy things and I will continue to be the responsible adult and raise "our" youngest child.


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Wow Fender, she's something else.

For some reason, I know this is going to sound sexist. I sometimes understand the stupidity and carelessness of the male WA's from the boards, but for the life of me I can't fathom the thoughtlessness of the WA moms.

My X has never in my boys lives bought them an article of clothing or a shoe, or underwear or a sock. So I sure don't expect him to do that after the D even though he no longer pays child support.

To go shopping with my daughter - or my sons - is a gift to me, but especially my daughter because she's a mini-me (ahem, she's much shorter). Every now and then we just go shopping. She's grown now, but I still pick things up for her that I think she'll like. I will probably always do that. So I can't understand your STBX for the life of me.

See what you got for getting yourself in a quandry? She didn't even care. At least with your parents your daughter may get to spend some time with a real woman - your mom. It may do her a world of good. What a shame that people don't even think about the poor little kids they left behind.

You'll just have to do more for her because she's without a mom in her life Fender. Thank God she has you.

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Fender...you ae doing a great job. So often, we bend over backward to make sure they get to spend time with the other parent...we change plans...we offer up other times...

Your daughter deserves the best. She deserves to see her grandparents. My thought is your ex might not have taken off time anyway and then she would have missed that trip.

We can't make then love their children. We can't make them be parents. We can just b the best parents we can be. We try to teach our children to set boundaries but so often I see people here flip stuff around so the errant ex can spend 5 mins with them.

We need boundaries too...it's good for everyone

nicely done

oh

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smoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooch

fig #1377163 03/06/08 04:25 AM
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Smooches back at ya Figgy.


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