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I was the same way man. I was in denial about it all. But yes, I would have done anything. Oh well. Bad communication. It will bring down any M. But I've learned that a R takes effort day in day out. I got lost in the daily grind of life and having three very young ones at home. I became a victim to my own life.

Nothing I can do now but learn from it.


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She actually thought I simply did not care. The truth is I really did not know.


How many of us can echo those exact words?


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Originally Posted By: MRHIGHSPEED
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She actually thought I simply did not care. The truth is I really did not know.


How many of us can echo those exact words?


MRHIGHSPEED,

The thing which REALLY gets me is when she was getting ready to move out, she said the following:

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You should take this as a lesson not to neglect your wife!


WTF! Why didn't she tell me three years ago!?!

RMG

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RMG...I'm sorry man but you need to stop blaming her. Listen to her. You should not have neglected your wife. She is right. And...so are you. She should have told you that you were neglecting her. She probably felt it was pretty obvious and that she didn't need to. Whatever - it is a two way street. You did things..she did things. That is why you are here. Don't think I've seen a single situation on here that was 100% one sided. It takes two to fix a M but it also takes two to destroy it.


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RMG...I'm sorry man but you need to stop blaming her. Listen to her. You should not have neglected your wife. She is right. And...so are you. She should have told you that you were neglecting her. She probably felt it was pretty obvious and that she didn't need to. Whatever - it is a two way street. You did things..she did things. That is why you are here. Don't think I've seen a single situation on here that was 100% one sided. It takes two to fix a M but it also takes two to destroy it.


swashy,

I understand. I am really not blaming her for what happened. I am just writing she is to blame for walking out on M without giving it a chance. Not that it matters to her, I think it was wrong from a Christian and a secular perspective.

RMG


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What good is blaming her doing you, RMG? True or not, why pin that on her. Accept your side of it and leave it at that. Could be why she didn't respond.

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What good is blaming her doing you, RMG? True or not, why pin that on her. Accept your side of it and leave it at that. Could be why she didn't respond.


Trip,

What in my e-mail made you think I blamed her alone? I just wrote I forgave her for everything she did. It was very general.

RMG


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I was responding to what you said here about blaming her for walking out on the marriage. Verbally said or not, written to her or not. I am sure she has picked up on this and thus responds, for her, accordingly.

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Her choice man. Could be a poor one...but it is still her's to make. My W is Catholic...didn't stop her. Of course ever since she started her A she hasn't had much interest in church anymore. Her parents, who are also Catholic, even support her. Pretty convenient if you ask me...but those are their choice to make.


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"And when all's been said and done
It's the things that are given, not won
Are the things that you want"
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