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Originally Posted By: MRHIGHSPEED
I see the fine line now. If only I could control those urges when I start touching my feminine side.


You can touch your feminine side if:

1. It agrees (no means no HS).

2. You don't do it in public (have some respect for the lady).

Hope that cleared things up for you HS.

And...um...well...for all you guys throw gay-bombs at Scott, methinks I detect a *wee* bit of jealousy for his way with the ladies.....

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So the guy who brought Ty and I pink shirts to wear in Boston is calling ME gayish...Ok...right.

So I had a bunch of the guys over last night. Grilled up some steak and chicken - made a ton of food - drank more than a few beers. Had a really good time. Good to see and just hang with everyone. Everyone really seemed to like my new place. One friend came over that I haven't seen in probably three years.

Three of us are getting divorced. Crazy and sad. One of them was this guy who's W is the one that my W has been commiserating with. Everyone took off by around midnight...but he hung out so we ended up talking until about 2am. Sounds like he's about where I am with it all...just moving on with his life. Trying to focus on what is best for his kids. Seems to have accepted that he can't change any of it and that this will just be her choice to have to find a way to live with. So it was good to talk to him about it and know that he's doing ok with it all.


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Hey S2H...

You sound really good and I'm glad you had such a great time last night. You deserve that! Have a great day today... I don't think you're 'gayish' at all.


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I mean we all know that all this banter from Ian is really just him questioning his own identity right? Pretty basic stuff here guys.

Oh man am I cooked today. Ugh. Kids will be here in 30 mins. Time to pick it up. \:\)


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Glad you had such a good time last night. It sounds like fun!

About your D'ing friends...man, it seems that way around my place as well. H's best friend's W dropped an A and D bomb on him in the last little while, and 2 of his other friends were divorced in the past year. Maybe it's something about the late 30's?

Ah well. Have fun with your kiddos!

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Hey S2H...

Reading about your D7 on my thread, just wanted to pop over and mention something that f21 and I were talking about this morning. She was just reminding me of the importance of spending some one on one time w/ each of the kids. I know how hard, even impossible, this seems in our sitchs, but right now sounds like D7 could really use that.

Good luck, have a great day today!

Julie


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Hey hey hey, that was Ty that brought the pink shirt to Boston and started that, not me.

It is not self reflective buddy.... I admit openly that I am attracted to Ty, but he is the only one. If you still looked like that picture from 10 years ago, maybe, I might let you blow me.

Glad you had a good night with the guys Scott, thats important. Your coming around great Scott, starting to understand a lot of what we read from people around here who have walked in our shoes.

Keep it up buddy.

By the way, you know how I know your gay? You not only watch High School Musical, but you know the names!


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SD - I think you're right. I think it does have something to do with the whole 30s thing. Just a point in time probably where we all start examining our lives again. Sad.

Thanks Julie. It is SO hard to get any alone time with them. And I SO used to love getting that. Maybe the W and I can arrange something to make sure that does happen. I do try to get a little one on one time with each one of them at night...but a day or night out alone would be great. Thanks for the thought! ;\)

And Ian...whatever dude. ;\)


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Originally Posted By: swashy
SD - I think you're right. I think it does have something to do with the whole 30s thing. Just a point in time probably where we all start examining our lives again. Sad.


swashy,

That IS sad. The thing which really sucks is if I HAD done that, I would have blazed off with the HOT babe who had the hots for me at MICROMEDEX. Instead, I stayed true to my marriage vows...

RMG


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Which was a solid choice RMG. I've said it time and time again on here, we are defined by the choices we make. And ususally, the hard choice is the right choice.


Scott: 38
X: 39
M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
It's the things that are given, not won
Are the things that you want"
- Gomez; See the World
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