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Exactly Fender. How can you ever learn from your mistakes if you can't even admit them. I know that doing that has helped me grow so much. Cleansing is the perfect word.


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As HS says, I'm from the goverment and I'm here to help. \:\)

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Well guys, part of fixing ourselves is being honest about our shortcomings. I believe we all do so much better at that and none of us has claimed to have been a saint in our marriages. Except for tyson of course who is perfect in every way......


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Originally Posted By: MRHIGHSPEED
Me likey cleansing.


Yeah, with fire!


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You have such a way with words HS. LOL


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Originally Posted By: swashy
Exactly Fender. How can you ever learn from your mistakes if you can't even admit them. I know that doing that has helped me grow so much. Cleansing is the perfect word.


I completely agree, and I have to say that, even when things work out after a sitch like this, the WAS rarely admits their faults and flaws or that they went about things like an a$$. I kind of feel sorry for them...it's like we were *lucky* enough to go through this process and learn tons and tons about humility, self-reflection, compassion, patience, and consciousness, and they missed out. I have to remind myself all the time that H didn't have that opportunity...

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Totally agree that we are the lucky ones. 100% So SD....Do you feel like your husband not learned from this? If things were to ever move forward with my W, I don't know if I could do it if I didn't feel like she had learned anything.


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M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

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We just Mexican food for lunch and I AM STUFFED! \:\)

My mood has continued to improve. Emailed back and forth with the W a bit but for the most part I'm just trying to keep my distance a bit. I need time to focus on me...so far so good with that.

Hope everyone is doing well. High School Musical 2 tonight! I can hardly contain myself. ;\) All I've heard about for the past two weeks. LOL.


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S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

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High School Musical 2 tonight! I can hardly contain myself. All I've heard about for the past two weeks. LOL.




OMG tell me about it, looks like we have our Friday night plannesd.

Let's re cap about it tomorrow handsome LOL


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I knew I bought that 42" plasma for a reason! Troy is SO dreamy. LOL! Have fun!


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S9, D8, S6
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Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
It's the things that are given, not won
Are the things that you want"
- Gomez; See the World
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