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Well...dude..I think you have plenty to be angry about. My W, although lost, is actually being a better mother.

Again, I see the point. I understand anger is ok. I'm just not. sorry. ;\)


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M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
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I'm IMing with this girl at work right now. She's in the middle of a D as well. Ugh...she seems to be flirting a bit. Scary.


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S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
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Ok...feeling better. My BIL came by earlier. SIL was out so we decided to take the kids out to dinner together. 5 kids ages 5-8 - oh yeah! LOL. They had fun, we got to have a couple beers and shoot the sh*t. A good night.

Doing a lot better. Picking myself up and dusting myself off again. I just need to keep reminding myself that I'm a good guy who deserves a lot more than what he is getting. And that this is not my choice. I'm not the one hurting our kids by not even trying, by carrying on with an affair, by refusing MC. I can hold my head high and know I did all I could. She refused to stand by me during my bad time and refuses to move forward with me in my good time. I'm not going to hate her for it - does me no good. I'll treat her with respect and kindness but I will also move on.

Phew...As H keeps teaching me....slow deep cleansing breaths. \:\)


Scott: 38
X: 39
M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
It's the things that are given, not won
Are the things that you want"
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Originally Posted By: MRHIGHSPEED
Go Swashy . . . go Swashy . . . it's your birthday!
What the hell are you talking about dude? lol


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Originally Posted By: swashy
Ok...feeling better. My BIL came by earlier. SIL was out so we decided to take the kids out to dinner together. 5 kids ages 5-8 - oh yeah! LOL. They had fun, we got to have a couple beers and shoot the sh*t. A good night.

Doing a lot better. Picking myself up and dusting myself off again. I just need to keep reminding myself that I'm a good guy who deserves a lot more than what he is getting. And that this is not my choice. I'm not the one hurting our kids by not even trying, by carrying on with an affair, by refusing MC. I can hold my head high and know I did all I could. She refused to stand by me during my bad time and refuses to move forward with me in my good time. I'm not going to hate her for it - does me no good. I'll treat her with respect and kindness but I will also move on.

Phew...As H keeps teaching me....slow deep cleansing breaths. \:\)




Just want to point out. Second paragraph, fourth sentence on, all reference her in some way. What up with that?


Scott he has a point and I have to agree.

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HS - I'm sorry dude...I appreciate your advice and I know that you are looking out for my best interest...but to actually think that I'm not going to mention my W on a site that is supposed to help me deal with what is going on with my M is a bit unrealistic don't ya think? And let me point out that you certainly did mention your W quite a bit in your post to me earlier this afternoon. Not trying to jump down your throat...but c'mon man. LOL.

As for work chick...uhhh...no. First off, I work with her, 2nd not my type, 3rd I work with her. Just kinda scary how eager some of these women are. I was in the groccery store the other day and this single mom just started this conversation with me. I don't know, maybe it was harmless...but it didn't feel like it.


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M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

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THANK YOU! ;\)

Again, I appreciate you looking out of for me and trying to keep me on track. 100% MAN! And I know what you are saying. I get it. Just a sh*tty day but felt like I was doing an ok job of pulling my head out of my a$$.


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X: 39
M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
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Woke up at 4am this morning and couldn't fall back to sleep. Ugh, been a while since I've done that. Mind has been racing. But I took that time to do a lot of thinking and I think I've got my head back on pretty straight. Feeling a lot better...although tired. Nothing a little extra coffee won't fix! \:\)

My BIL's brother is coming down this weekend and wants to get together with everyone. This is also my W's friend's H...the ones that are getting D'd. So I think I'm having everyone over my place for some beer and bbq. Should be fun. Psyched to have the guys hanging at my new place. Haven't really done that yet.


Scott: 38
X: 39
M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

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Are the things that you want"
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Beer and BBQ, now there is the recipe for a good time. \:\)


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Actually I have to say, I've had better BBQ here than I did when i was in Memphis. I was a little let down out there.

yeah, he called me at like 7:45 - I was still laying in bed.


Scott: 38
X: 39
M: 13yrs D: 12/12/08
S9, D8, S6
MLC/EA/PA
Bomb: 8/10/06 S: 01/07 Asked for D: 05/07 Mediation 07/07

"And when all's been said and done
It's the things that are given, not won
Are the things that you want"
- Gomez; See the World
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