Feeling the anger and indignation percolating at what W has done more now that I am away and spending time with D and granddaughter. Just that it’s really not ok and very wrong. Want to listen to this and proceed wisely.
What DnJ said. The anger is going to be there and come in waves too. It's not a week of it and done. It's going to be there for some extent for quite awhile. Make sure you have a good way to process through it.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Find a SAFE way to release it. Otherwise it will come out at the wrong time. Stuffing it down long term is bad. Road Rage is a good example stuffed emotions coming out at the wrong target. We men have been conditioned to stuff it down our whole lives. One important thing is to not release it when interacting with W.
I let a lot out while I am driving and listening to music. Five Finger death punch "the bleeding" was my divorce song.
I plan on doing a "rage room". You pay to break things.
Some here talk about the gym.
Anger is pure energy that you can channel into something productive as well.
Last edited by DnJ; 12/03/2211:37 PM. Reason: Corrected wording for R2C.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
“One important thing is to release it when interacting with W.” do you mean *not* release it when interacting with W?
I expressed anger to her (calmly) at BD to her. But not sure how to interact now with her regarding anger. My thought is to deal with it in healthy ways at other times and spaces so it’s not volatile when I have to interact with her.
And I would think that potentially down the road and perhaps with professional help might be the way to process it with her eventually (or not).