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DnJ #2930750 03/02/22 04:38 PM
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I'm so sorry D. That's horrible. Hugs to your family.


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D Final 12/23/16

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DnJ #2930936 03/06/22 10:28 AM
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Dear DnJ,

How awful to have to go through this.
My thoughts go out to the family and much strength for your son and his GF.


Me (44) EXH (42)
M:15 T:19, S18, S15 & S15
04/19 - 02/20 ILYB & OW1
12/20 - .... OW2
03/22 - Divorce official / home sold / I let go
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Thank you BL, El, bttrfly, Eagle

The kids made it through the week. They are tending to their work, responsibilities, and their grief.

Wedding plans are still underway; the girls are going dress shopping soon. XW/J/Mom is included in the invited entourage.

An interesting tidbit. During the kids’ visit a few weeks ago during the birthdays, XW was unlike herself from Christmas. She was kind of “normal” as reported by the kids. She did hug far too long. Well beyond comfortable and into weird and desperate.

- - - -

My Mom and I had supper and the next two movies in the Avengers series. We just finished Captain America: Civil War; into the later half now. Was up to 1:00 am. So today a late start. smile

Dad has made a somewhat remarkable recovery or reprieve it seems.

The lawyer got the care home straightened out and did met with Dad. All the paperwork was signed; will, power of attorney. The L telling Mom that Dad was sharp as a tack, Dad completely understood what and why he was doing.

It continues to snow here. Last night another four inches. And yesterday, I just cleared the snow from the day before that. My goodness the piles and banks are so high. There is ice everywhere. It’s quite treacherous, slip and slide everywhere you go.

A (late) Sunday morning musing:

One gains such peace when they find the courage to let go that which they cannot control.

D


Now: Me54 XW51 S25 S23 S21 D20

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

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DnJ #2930964 03/06/22 08:03 PM
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Glad your dad is doing better.

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Originally Posted by DnJ
My Mom and I had supper and the next two movies in the Avengers series. We just finished Captain America: Civil War; into the later half now.
Not sure if I mentioned it before, but think that's an awesome way to bond with your mom!

Actually just watched some Hulk movie scenes (S6 is a big fan) and the Civil War the airport fight scene with my kids tonight. Thought Spiderman's dialogue was hilarious playing up the teenager vs. the adults angle with him referring to Iron Man as "Mr. Stark", chatting it up with and also apologizing to the other Avengers he's battling, and "hey guys you ever see that really old movie, Empire Strikes Back?" and they're like "geez how old is this kid?".


Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21
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Hello

kml, just had a hour long visit with Dad. Wow! What a change. He is alert, coordinated, and coherent; much like himself. Quite amazing.

BL, yes Mom and I are certainly enjoying our movies. And popcorn! Lol.

The airport scene is hilarious. Spider-ling, Spider-Guy, um, Spider-Man (Tony Stark character is so good. A perfect role for Robert Downey Jr.) has such funny interactions with his heroes. And yes, that really old movie Empire Strikes Back. Haha. So well done.

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Now: Me54 XW51 S25 S23 S21 D20

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

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glad to hear it D ... hope you are well.


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D Final 12/23/16

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Thanks bttrfly

I am well.

I’ve got a few Everest snow piles around my yard.

The kids are doing well coping with the death of her cousin.

I’m starting a redecorating project. Fixing my laminate flooring. Doing some wall panelling. Putting up some ceiling panels. Going to look awesome!

And let’s see. The seventh. It’s March. Carry the one. Wow! 8 months 10 days.

D


Now: Me54 XW51 S25 S23 S21 D20

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

Love the Sinner, Forgive the Sin.
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Originally Posted by DnJ
An interesting tidbit. During the kids’ visit a few weeks ago during the birthdays, XW was unlike herself from Christmas. She was kind of “normal” as reported by the kids. She did hug far too long. Well beyond comfortable and into weird and desperate.D

Hmm…. Wonder if the informative text you sent had anything to do with this brief awakening? Most likely not but we can influence people with our actions. Be interested to see if the she continues to peek out in the future.

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W52 (50@BD)
S22 (20@BD) S20 (19@BD)
Married 23 Together 28
BD 9/29/19 (came home from weekend fishing trip and wife had moved out with no warning)
W filed 10/19/20 (Informed me via text)
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Hi Taz

What a good observation. I hadn’t even put that together. Funny, I barely analyze my situation anymore. Just doing my own thing. smile

Now that I think about it, yes my text could have stirred her a bit. A few months ago at Christmas she was looking at the electrical field of oranges to see which ones were the most tasty. Now she is reportedly more like herself, whatever that equates to.

I suppose an out of the blue contact from her XH, a contact that was to the point and non blaming, may have caused some realizations that - hey, I haven’t spoken with D for two years. Not a word! Nothing since daughter’s graduation. (Odd, he didn’t feel like that guy I hate so much.)

If, and boy is that a big if, if she sees that she might realize I’m not the cause. Now wouldn’t that be something. I’ll not hold my breath; just keep doing my own thing.

I would also suspect the upcoming wedding is upon her mind as well.

Taz, I had not consider nor thought of her as experiencing anything like a brief awaking. Guess I’m used to her being her vanished self. Sure glad you’re paying attention. smile

Thanks

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Now: Me54 XW51 S25 S23 S21 D20

Oct 8/17-BD, Moves in w/OM, Leaves Kids
Me49 W46 S20 S19 S16 D15
M26 T29
Dec 9/17-Legal Separation
Oct 3/18-W Files
Apr 6/19-Divorced

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