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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: wayfarer] #2918512
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Originally Posted by SteveLW
WOW. Crazy. Man I hate hearing stories like this. No one, H or W, BF or GF is worth this kind of thing. What in the world was he thinking?!?


No idea. The cop said something to the extent that I was stalking him? Idk.

Originally Posted by wayfarer
Joseph I know I never really wrote on your thread before because well exW is certifiable. There wasn't every much to say. And I didn't have time to re-read everything but but I just want to give you a heads up given your situation on a few things. 1) all of this is going to trigger social services getting involved with that baby 2) if you were still legally married when she had that baby in most places you are the legal father even if you aren't the bio dad and this will cause complications once social services gets involved 3) given the situation with your exW's baby daddy and her "issues," since that's what we're going with, there is a very, very high likelihood that the state will be taking that baby in the near future. If the paternity isn't in order you will be getting roped into this mess 4) with custody of her other children you will be asked if you'd be willing to take that baby, they may even push it if you are the legal father while that situation resolves. I'd give your lawyer a call and see if they know a good juvenile justice attorney or if they can handle this matter should it arise to this level. And given the time I've spent in juvenile and family court I would say there is a very high likelihood that a good chunk of the above will happen.


Oh god. I hope not. I am under the impression when the baby was born he signed paternity. So Iím hoping nothing like that happens.
Iím curious why children and youth would get in involved?


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918514
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Wow, Joseph, so sorry you're going through this. Beyond wayfarer's warning, write down a personal account of everything you remember now, because some details may be foggy by the time you get to court. Been there, done that, and the personal account helped me sound confident and put the clown where he belonged.


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918519
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Thankfully someone else saw it all happen and there are cameras. So hopefully there isnít much confusion. I appreciate the well wishes.

Just amazes me at 38 Iím dealing with this kind of nonsense. Just a reminder of what kind of trash can Iím dealing with.

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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918520
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Originally Posted by JosephS
Thankfully someone else saw it all happen and there are cameras. So hopefully there isnít much confusion. I appreciate the well wishes.

Just amazes me at 38 Iím dealing with this kind of nonsense. Just a reminder of what kind of trash can Iím dealing with.


It is certainly not something you should have to deal with, no doubt. I am assuming this guy is a loser. Funny how WSs almost without fail affair down. Kind of make sense, since only a slimeball would mess with someone else's spouse. But I cannot think of one instance, here or in my personal life, where I've witnessed a WS that actually chose an upgrade for their AP. In every instance I've been left scratching my head thinking "that doesn't make sense!"

Just crazy that this guy assaulted you. Do they think he was actually trying to kill you?


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: SteveLW] #2918521
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Thankfully someone else saw it all happen and there are cameras. So hopefully there isnít much confusion. I appreciate the well wishes.

Just amazes me at 38 Iím dealing with this kind of nonsense. Just a reminder of what kind of trash can Iím dealing with.


It is certainly not something you should have to deal with, no doubt. I am assuming this guy is a loser. Funny how WSs almost without fail affair down. Kind of make sense, since only a slimeball would mess with someone else's spouse. But I cannot think of one instance, here or in my personal life, where I've witnessed a WS that actually chose an upgrade for their AP. In every instance I've been left scratching my head thinking "that doesn't make sense!"

Just crazy that this guy assaulted you. Do they think he was actually trying to kill you?


She definitely affairíd down and if you knew me, thatís saying something. Because previously she left me with absolutely no self esteem or worth.

I honestly donít know what he was trying to do. Itís very possible. The witness actually took a buck knife to him to get him to stop since I was out cold from getting hit from behind. Guy was my angel last night


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918522
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Absolute insanity. Glad you are ok man.

Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918525
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Originally Posted by Joseph
The witness actually took a buck knife to him to get him to stop since I was out cold from getting hit from behind. Guy was my angel last night

Amazing! Many people don't even bother to call 9-1-1 when someone is in trouble (psychologically, they expect someone else to have done so). This man put himself in harm's way to help you! It's great that, for every story here about the depths humanity can sink to, we have another about its heights. A toast to this wonderful stranger!


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: CWarrior] #2918526
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Originally Posted by CWarrior
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The witness actually took a buck knife to him to get him to stop since I was out cold from getting hit from behind. Guy was my angel last night

Amazing! Many people don't even bother to call 9-1-1 when someone is in trouble (psychologically, they expect someone else to have done so). This man put himself in harm's way to help you! It's great that, for every story here about the depths humanity can sink to, we have another about its heights. A toast to this wonderful stranger!



Not only did he put a stop to everything, he called the police and provided a statement. Seriously, this guy and his wife are the real heroís

I wish I knew their number or names, because I would love to send a gift card their way. So I have found out the ex was using an app from the App Store store and and texting him pretending to be me. Itís massively messed up


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918533
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That is seriously messed up Joseph. Is this a current boyfriend or an ex boyfriend. If it is the former, he should quickly make it the latter. Not that anything justifies what he did to you but I wonder what it is she texted him when she was pretending to be you. Nothing good, thatís for sure. Yikes. frown


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Re: Accepting and moving towards a good life [Re: JosephS] #2918534
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Originally Posted by JosephS
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The witness actually took a buck knife to him to get him to stop since I was out cold from getting hit from behind. Guy was my angel last night

Amazing! Many people don't even bother to call 9-1-1 when someone is in trouble (psychologically, they expect someone else to have done so). This man put himself in harm's way to help you! It's great that, for every story here about the depths humanity can sink to, we have another about its heights. A toast to this wonderful stranger!



Not only did he put a stop to everything, he called the police and provided a statement. Seriously, this guy and his wife are the real heroís

I wish I knew their number or names, because I would love to send a gift card their way. So I have found out the ex was using an app from the App Store store and and texting him pretending to be me. Itís massively messed up


Joseph, I will be praying for you, that all this gets resolved appropriately, and that you make a full and speedy recovery!


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