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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916417
03/12/21 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted by kml
Is it weird that him including a smiley face creeps me out?

It's the first time I've heard this. I never considered my smiley face emojis could be creepy, lol! I wonder if "(:" or ":)" is more creepy?? Given the context of what you've been through, though, it makes sense.


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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916422
03/12/21 11:03 PM
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Hi kml, I hope you get a quick reply to the email you sent. It always amazes me when one form of contact gets a reply quicker than another. Glad you got some kind of response.

Good luck


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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916427
03/13/21 12:22 AM
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Yes he actually sent a polite and helpful response. Apparently his multiple interactions with the healthcare system about his own medical issues and those of his parents has given him some frame of reference and empathy.

Itís like a form of PTSD - I never know what contact with him will contain some ugliness that pops out of nowhere. Itís a relief to have a normal interaction, but I avoid it as much as possible, because I never know when the snakes will jump out.

Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916457
03/13/21 08:18 PM
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I can certainly sympathize with that. I know that on the extremely rare occasions I've had to communicate with my ex that my stress level is through the roof. She had a very cutting way of putting me in my place that after all those years together is probably wired into my medulla.


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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916655
03/17/21 06:23 AM
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Saw a patient today who had Covid a couple months ago, diagnosed when she presented to the ER in new onset atrial fibrillation (undoubtedly caused by Covid) . She just got out of a new two week hospitalization for heart failure brought on by a-fib, now has a pacemaker and on digoxin. Hoping her a-fib goes away when her heart recovers from Covid.

Next weekend CMM and I will go visit a couple who have been friends of mine for 40 years. The husband had a heart transplant two years ago. All four of us are fully vaccinated, and nobody goes anywhere but to doctors appointments, and in my case, my very low risk office. Itís going to be fun but strange to actually spend time indoors with friends!

Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916721
03/17/21 11:34 PM
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Originally Posted by kml
All four of us are fully vaccinated, and nobody goes anywhere but to doctors appointments, and in my case, my very low risk office.

What a sad way to live a full year of life. You donít get this time back you know, like credit for ďgood behaviorĒ or something. I remember how it was very common for many to say to make every day count, make the most of everyday as you never know how much time you have left or which day might be your last. ďLive everyday as if itís your last,Ē itís been said. A full year of going nowhere and for certain for one of you your final days most certainly are numbered. But, hey, your life, your choice. At least some balance would make more sense to me, as again the days, weeks, months, and soon years, are yours to waste or to on,y live working and going to the doctor. Perhaps worse yet, at least some data is now showing no difference between Californiaís draconian lockdowns and Floridaís limited restrictions and attempt to stay open. Very different approaches but both had the same results. I hope time proves you made the right choice as again you canít get this time back.


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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916723
03/17/21 11:58 PM
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I'm not coming off 2 months on a ventilator and ECMO like my patient this morning's husband. I haven't had to havr 5 surgeries to save my leg from Covid-induced blood clots like my friend's healthy 32 year old nephew. I don't have Long Covid with palpitations and fatigue 1 year later like my business partner's healthy 32 year old son. If I have to have Zoom and telephone chats with friends and hang out with the people in my household for a year and wear a mask everywhere I go to prevent that, I'm totally willing. I have a high risk person at home. Not willing to risk his life. Or mine. Nothing sad about it - you do what is necessary in a war or a pandemic.

BTW Florida has been caught lying about their Covid numbers and California still has a smaller rate per 100,000 so any similarities may be illusory. We did great here until a home-grown variant came in after Halloween, and we are back to pretty low compared to other states now. Florida is currently at 21 cases per 100,000 per day (assuming they're not still fudging the numbers) and California is at 7 per 100,000 per day.

Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916724
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Originally Posted by DonH
Perhaps worse yet, at least some data is now showing no difference between Californiaís draconian lockdowns and Floridaís limited restrictions and attempt to stay open.

Hi Don, I'm often astounded by what the East Coast believes the "Draconian lockdowns" of the West Coast require. I've been 95% compliant--I read what "Stay At Home" orders say--and have averaged 1.5 roadtrips/month. I enjoyed two wineries. There are modifications. On my road-trips, I packed all my food and drinks to avoid stops and often camped. In the early days, I sometimes had to find clever parking spots outside of parks and beaches. At the wineries, I had to sit at an outdoor table 8' from others, order a charcuterie play, and wear a mask that covered my mouth AND nose when not eating. I have missed carpools, handshakes, and big gatherings. My life hasn't been on-hold at all.


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Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916725
03/18/21 12:09 AM
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And Don, remember, I'm not isolated like you. I do see my coworkers - we're all masked and distanced - I did have 3 other people living in my house - and I have seen patients when numbers were low enough, although all screened and masked. So don't think I'm underestimating how lonely this can be for single people living alone.

Re: Back to the Future [Re: kml] #2916765
03/19/21 03:30 AM
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So get this:

Itís like a form of PTSD - I never know what contact with him will contain some ugliness that pops out of nowhere. Itís a relief to have a normal interaction, but I avoid it as much as possible, because I never know when the snakes will jump out.

UGH!
I'm glad he's being civil, sorry you had to send email 3x


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