D17 wants to go protest and well that would be something seeing as H is a racist cop. She's afraid though (rightfully so) and so her fight is online. Signing petitions, donating her own money, forwarding videos and tweets. She's outraged. H used to shut her up when she called him out on his racism, homophobia, sexism and he got defensive so it's personal. Now she says "I'm not afraid to stand up for what I believe in". She posted this scathing, but true story of H on her instagram story. Wow it was powerful. I was proud of her for that but feared backlash from H. She assured me her account is private and it would disappear in 24 hours (still a bit scared). She's gotten nothing but positive comments on what she wrote. I am however grateful she only remembered the tamer stories.
Did some more research about free speech on the internet and she needs to take it down. I can't undo what she's done but it is a teachable moment of what she can and cannot say online. It's a private board and she's an angry kid so I pray she hasn't done any damage. I'm still proud of her for standing up for her beliefs but there is a little thing called defamation of character (didn't think about this). Raising kids has gotten a whole lot harder now that they've found their voice.
Excuse the hijack kml.....kas, please remind your daughter that just because her settings are private doesn’t mean that things she writes can’t be found and traced to her. She posted it ON THE INTERNET. I’m not going to go all conspiracy theorist on you but posting on the internet, even on a “private” setting is still posting on the internet. To put it in our frame of reference since we are both older than your D17, it leaves a “paper” trail. And if she is as angry as you indicate, you might think about finding someone for her to talk to. That much rage and anger can’t be healthy.
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I had a chat with D17 when I went home for lunch. I know that any one of her friends could have copied it that it's "out there" now. She did it before she told me and it took me a bit to process. The post is down now. She's always fought for underdogs, protected classes, gives money to homeless people it's who she is. She's angry because a cop killed someone over a $20 bill and her dad just happens to be a cop. She's an INFJ and this is what she does. When Kobe Bryant was killed she took to her room and cried for 3 days. She just feels everything so deeply. I'll keep an eye on this because this is a side of her I haven't seen yet. We weren't close before the BD so I have no basis for comparison.
She just sent me a selfie of her with both kittens laying on her. She's all smiles yet if there is a protest nearby she's going to want to go. This child is the most perplexing person I think I've ever had the privilege to meet.
I don’t want to keep taking up kml’s thread, but I’ll just say this. I too am an INFJ and I feel things deeply too, but I’m not seeing the correlation between being INFJ and being so super angry at her father. Maybe part of it is her age, as teenagers do tend to be far more emotional. Maybe it is just her life experiences. Don’t know and not judging. It just seems, based on your posts, that her anger, particularly for her father is super intense.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Well I'd be super angry at my father too if he was a racist a-hole AND blew up the family. And represented oppression (since, if he's an openly racist cop, he's probably not a good cop).
Not saying she shouldn’t be angry at her father. That wasn’t my point at all. Again, it may be how I’m reading it and not what kas is saying at all but this anger towards him was making an appearance before recent events and now seems exacerbated by our current societal tensions, which can’t be good for D17. It is probably just me and the way I’m interpreting what I’m reading but her anger toward her father (not unwarranted by any means) seems almost all-consuming.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Too bad we can't post pictures and videos here - my son's little chihuahua-terrier mix went protesting with him yesterday, and I have the cutest video of him marching along with the crowd, his little chihuahua legs moving so fast.
