Just an update, I have retained an attorney and I am moving forward with the divorce. Got an angry message from the soon to be ex when she found out...
Then late on Father's day I get a message saying it looks like we aren't talking anymore (I have completely stopped all communication now) and then goes on to wish me a Happy Father's day and hoped I had a nice weekend.
That message sure was odd considering what she had sent previously. At any rate, I continue to work on myself every day. I'm doing well and focusing on the positives in my life!
Trying to figure out the WAS/WS mind is an exercise in futility. Even though she was clear she wanted a D, what she didn't say is "but I still want you there as Plan B". You filing for D is a sign to her that you are moving on, and she is losing her power over you.
You got this js, you are doing the right things concentrating on yourself. If you are ready to move on, then moving the D forward is the right approach!
Hopefully you didn't respond to any of those messages. YOu should be NC at this point. No responses unless she asks a direct question, but even then only answer the question in as few words as possible. Yes or no questions get yes or no answers.
M(51), W(52),D(16) M-20, T-23 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I'll admit that message on Father's day bothered me quite a bit. The part where she says, "looks like we aren't talking anymore". I mean yeah, what do you expect, you wanted a divorce?
Put a sticky note on your brain that says, "WW's are not logical". You are reading her messages from a logical viewpoint, therefore, it leaves you feeling very confused. She's not logical, and won't make sense. Why torture yourself trying to make sense of crazy?
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It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!